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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/BabyFine9468 on 2023-08-03 02:04:00.

My (25M) wife (24F) comes from a large religious family in like rural Mississippi. Her dad’s a pastor and both her parents were/are abusive. She got away through college. Her baby brother Lucas (15M) was outed a few months ago by his abusive bf and their parents kicked him out.

We went and got him and he’s been staying with us over the summer. We discovered he’s an alcoholic a coping mechanism to deal with his parents and his bf… Now I feel for the kid I do but both me and my wife agreed on no kids. I never wanted to be a parent. Now I’m doing parent things like driving him to AA and therapy sessions. Taking him to and from summer school etc. I had to get rid of all my alcohol and my wife is looking for schools closer to us for the fall. I try to hide it but I’m pretty sure Lucas can tell that I’ don’t like playing dad and he kinda shys away from me…

I guess sometime recently he confided into my wife that he thought I didn’t like him and that I didn’t want him there. She confronted me about it last night and told me she noticed it too. I told her I never signed up to be a dad and she never discussed with me about him permanently staying with us. This started a huge argument about how I have no empathy about what hes going through and how she couldn’t just leave her brother.

I brought up that they have other family and that he just roper me into taking care of a teenager. I ended up sleeping on the couch last night. AITA?