cross-posted from: https://lemmynsfw.com/post/269418
I get the sense that many people (including me) would answer “frequency” or maybe it’s “variety”. What is it for you? How could your needs be better satisfied?
It would be really cool to give people suggestions too, if you have any good ideas to help.
I think we’re both on the same page in that she’s going to talk with her doctors about possible medication changes, and if that doesn’t change anything we’re just going to have to get more creative. She likes giving me pleasure, but I worry that she doesn’t get anything out of it and just feels obligated to do it. We’ll see how it goes. Might even consider seeing some sort of couples therapist to get to the bottom of this wherever it leads. At the moment it just feels impossible to know where things are going wrong, considering I was her first sexual partner so she doesn’t have any experience to compare to.
She hadn’t even masturbated before we were together, and I’m glad that she can at least experience and enjoy orgasms. It’s where me and her vulva mix in any capacity that’s the sticking point. Touch anywhere else is good
One thing you really have going for you is that she is willing to work with you on it. That’s worth A LOT!