I’m actually an introvert, but I did a job that required being able to act otherwise. So I noticed that when I interacted with people that are into men at work, I got way different reactions than when off work. Being upbeat and friendly gets taken as interest rather than interest, if you see the difference there. Thing is, I’m friendly as an introvert. When allowed to be anyway. I listen, I smile, I just don’t tend to give the same kind of feedback as when I was on the job. It’s a quiet, reserved friendliness that doesn’t get misread often.
It’s pretty interesting how much being “bubbly” changes things, especially if you use touch too.
Lmao! Not implying, it was part of the job, mandatory even. Nurse’s assistant.
But part of the job is interacting with family of the patients, and a bit of human contact goes a long way. Holding a hand, a touch on the shoulder, even a hug when needed. That’s the kind of touch I meant.
Well, there were a few instances where family of patients ended up being touched in other ways lol. But not while on duty, and not typically while working for their loved one. Things can get tangled up when you’re around someone every day, no matter how hard you work to keep yourself professional only.
It works the other way too, believe it or not.
I’m actually an introvert, but I did a job that required being able to act otherwise. So I noticed that when I interacted with people that are into men at work, I got way different reactions than when off work. Being upbeat and friendly gets taken as interest rather than interest, if you see the difference there. Thing is, I’m friendly as an introvert. When allowed to be anyway. I listen, I smile, I just don’t tend to give the same kind of feedback as when I was on the job. It’s a quiet, reserved friendliness that doesn’t get misread often.
It’s pretty interesting how much being “bubbly” changes things, especially if you use touch too.
I hope you’re not implying you’re touching people at work lol
It’s not unusual to touch people at work. Reassuring hand on shoulder for instance for jobs where people can be stressed.
Healthcare practitioners touch people day in and out in places they don’t let friends touch.
Let’s not make touch and human contact always sexual. We have a need for contact that is just casual as well as a need for intimacy.
Lmao! Not implying, it was part of the job, mandatory even. Nurse’s assistant.
But part of the job is interacting with family of the patients, and a bit of human contact goes a long way. Holding a hand, a touch on the shoulder, even a hug when needed. That’s the kind of touch I meant.
Well, there were a few instances where family of patients ended up being touched in other ways lol. But not while on duty, and not typically while working for their loved one. Things can get tangled up when you’re around someone every day, no matter how hard you work to keep yourself professional only.
Oh! I work in an office so that last bit I was like oh no, don’t touch your coworkers in the office. No no no.