

And I would normally agree with that approach especially if I had nothing to do with them ever again.
In this situation and as it relates to family, letting this go unchecked is a missed opportunity for a person to learn how this behavior is super weird. To say I haven’t fallen victim to cognitive dissonance would be a lie. However, I learned how to avoid it and resolve conflicts in my own beliefs over time. (Given the nature of this problem, I don’t believe anyone could ever be truly immune to it either.)
Still though, 99.9% of the time your advice is spot-on.
The last sentence (after your quote ends) was meant to imply that that nobody, even me, is immune to this problem. Without a doubt, I am human and I have my own issues.
Also, anytime I have encountered any issue like this on my own, it has always taken time to resolve as it can be super complicated. Right now, even though I have been sober for a few years, I am still dealing with many false assumptions and beliefs that stemmed from my years of alcoholism so believe me when I say that the mind of an addict is filled with some twisted realities.
Admittedly, rational thought is a relatively new concept to me.