• Flying Squid
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    619 days ago

    Sure, there are self-hating people of all sorts of marginalized groups, but queer people are the only ones who get regularly talked about as if the people who oppress them are also queer.

    You don’t hear about Muslims being oppressed by secret Muslims.

    I cannot provide evidence for this, obviously, but it would seem to me that most bigots are bigots because they’re bigoted, not because they’re secretly the thing they’re bigoted against.

    • @[email protected]
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      819 days ago

      Religion isn’t something intrinsic about a person. If you hate the fact that you’re a Muslim, you can opt out.

      You cannot opt out being queer.

      • Flying Squid
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        019 days ago

        Okay then, you don’t hear about white bigots being secretly light-skinned black people. Pick whatever group you want. Queer people are the only one I can think of where it’s regularly claimed that the people bigoted against them are themselves the people they are bigoted against.

        • @[email protected]
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          519 days ago

          Yeah, nobody says that people opposed to disability rights are secretly suffering from an invisible disability.

        • @[email protected]
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          019 days ago

          Nah it’s a tale as old as time, we used to call it “the one who smelt it dealt it” but the principle is the same. The most fervent and vocal are often just trying to cover their own asses.

          • Flying Squid
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            319 days ago

            Can you name another example where bigotry against a traditionally marginalized minority is virtually always claimed to be coming from that minority?

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              19 days ago

              I don’t care to sit here all day thinking about it and I’m not sure I agree with that characterization anyway, it seems like you’re just looking for a fight honestly.

              Do you understand what I’m saying though, are you familiar with the phrase? Another is “when you point the finger at someone you have three pointed back at you.” It’s a fairly common bit of folk wisdom.

              • Flying Squid
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                219 days ago

                I understand what you’re saying, I just don’t agree with your analogy where you equate suggesting all homophobes are secretly gay with accusing someone of farting.

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                  019 days ago

                  How about “when you point the finger at someone you have three pointed back at you” is that better?

                  If you’re in a room full of people, and you “lose” something, the person that helps look for it the most, the one who won’t give up and is very curious about where your item “went” is the thief.

                  • Flying Squid
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                    219 days ago

                    And yet you can’t think of one other marginalized group of people where every time a finger is pointed at them, people claim the person doing the pointing is part of that group.

                    Curious that you don’t find that problematic despite having no other examples.

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      -119 days ago

      Sure, there are self-hating people of all sorts of marginalized groups, but queer people are the only ones who get regularly talked about as if the people who oppress them are also queer.

      Not true, pedophiles often fall in this category and there is even more evidence of this to justify correlation

      • Flying Squid
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        219 days ago

        Sorry, you’re saying that people who hate pedophiles are themselves pedophiles?

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          -219 days ago

          Not at all… and looking at the rest of your comments I don’t really know what you are fishing for but I don’t want to play your game

          • Flying Squid
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            319 days ago

            I’m not “fishing for” anything. Please don’t make ridiculous accusations about me. If that isn’t what you meant, what did you mean?