For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.

They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.

  • zero_spelled_with_an_ecksEnglish
    2715·
    2 days ago

    I think it’s really easy to construe “get over it” as dismissive of a marginalized group’s concerns. That’s how it comes across to me. If it needs context to seem less so, it could probably use better wording.

    • Dr. Wesker@lemmy.sdf.orgOPMEnglish
      142·
      2 days ago

      Stop downvoting this dude, they’re not wrong, it’s a reasonable take and true in hindsight.

      • zero_spelled_with_an_ecksEnglish
        72·
        1 day ago

        Thanks. I could probably use my own advice, too. That last bit of mine could have been worded better.

    • GrumpyDuckling@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      64·
      1 day ago

      Telling someone to get over it is the most inclusive thing you could do. I’m not giving special treatment to you just because you’re different bucko.

      • zero_spelled_with_an_ecksEnglish
        83·
        1 day ago

        So would you say to women that they should just get over discrimination and harassment in the workplace because it’s inclusive, for example? I’m sure you can think of some more extreme examples that go beyond that both in magnitude and into parts of a person’s identity beyond gender.

        Please understand that marginalized groups already receive special, negative treatment. Claiming that they’re being included by ignoring those very real parts of their lives doesn’t sit well with me. If you are the type of friend that ignores the suffering of the people you are close to and treats others well only so far as they are “normal” and don’t require special treatment, that won’t make a fuss when you call them names or make them the butt of a joke to be “inclusive”, then I don’t envy the people in your life, bucko.

          • zero_spelled_with_an_ecksEnglish
            1·
            12 hours ago

            Right. Most of the things that are really concerning people are macro. Glass ceilings, police killings of black people, women dying due to abortion bans, assaults on trans people. Not everything can be dismissed as a micro aggression.