or maybe some other terminology would be better? lots of people get confused when you ask them to choose an instance, sometimes I think even the word “proxy”, “host”, or “hub” is simpler
the specific terms aren’t my point, just a discussion to see if we can come up with a better name
you’re right about people making choices, but I still think the word choice matters, I’ve told people about Lemmy before and they always ask what an instance is