I’m not who you were replying to, but I wanted to voice that I’m in the narrow-minded “kids suck” camp. I’m too selfish to be a great parent, so I’ve elected to not be a parent at all. I’d be okay, maybe even good at it, but I’m all too aware of the freedom and the financial stability I’d be giving up to be a parent, and for that I know that I’d resent my child for taking that from me even if I consciously tried not to.
I have other additional reasons, but the strongest reason is that I like the ability to take my wife on spontaneous trips to wherever or just shut down and focus on myself. Parents can’t do that, at least not whenever they feel like it.
I’m not who you were replying to, but I wanted to voice that I’m in the narrow-minded “kids suck” camp. I’m too selfish to be a great parent, so I’ve elected to not be a parent at all. I’d be okay, maybe even good at it, but I’m all too aware of the freedom and the financial stability I’d be giving up to be a parent, and for that I know that I’d resent my child for taking that from me even if I consciously tried not to.
I have other additional reasons, but the strongest reason is that I like the ability to take my wife on spontaneous trips to wherever or just shut down and focus on myself. Parents can’t do that, at least not whenever they feel like it.
At least you recognize your lifestyle doesn’t mesh with having kids.
Just for recognizing that, you’re off to a better start than the parents who resent their kids for existing and makes sure the kid knows it every day.