Description: a toilet door with a multigender symbol and a disabled symbol. Text below the symbols reads “Inclusive| Ira tāngata katoa”.

For context, this is the disabled toilet in the main art gallery in my country’s biggest city. There are the standard male toilet and female toilet right there as well.

Edit: sorry, image upload isn’t working for me. Basically the one disabled toilet has been turned into an inclusive gender and disability toilet. I love it that there is a gender inclusive bathroom but I don’t love it that they siloed it into the disability accessible toilet instead of renovating a new one or changing one of the 4 standard ones instead or as well.

  • Lionir [he/him]
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    164 months ago

    It should be noted that I am just a man who does not use these bathrooms but I have some thoughts. My first impressions were from a queer perspective.

    We have a pretty similar setup at school. It certainly doesn’t feel great to me. It always felt like a shortcut used by administration to answer the ‘inclusive bathroom issue’. It creates a weird fear in my mind of using one while I could be using another but instead I’d be blocking someone who needs the special infrastructure in the toilet. One of them has also repeatedly been locked by the administration because “people have sex in them” which just irks me so much. They would never close any other bathrooms if that happened in them - which it most certainly does.

    Okay, that became a rant but um, these are my thoughts.

    • liv
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      114 months ago

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts. That locked due to sex thing is irksome for sure. How can their logic be “other people have sex therefore you have nowhere to pee”?!

      It creates a weird fear in my mind of using one while I could be using another but instead I’d be blocking someone who needs the special infrastructure in the toilet.

      This is a big part of it. As a bi cisgender disabled person I feel like we are being herded into making decisions about sharing/competing for a scarce resource somehow. It sort of feels like they are ticking off all their “other” boxes with this one toilet.

      I felt quite selfconscious when a person with no visible disability walked out of it and I was outside in a wheelchair waiting. I’m pretty sure they were rainbow community and I didn’t want them to feel like their use of the toilet was at my expense.

      It also feels a bit problematic to me that there’s an assumption that disabled people specifically are never bigoted or unsafe for gender diverse people to be around.

    • @[email protected]
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      84 months ago

      “people have sex in them”

      Well, that’s one way of having more than one gender in there… 🙄

      I’m guessing the disabled toilet is a single person “room” one, lockable from the inside, so it gives more privacy, and/or freedom to litter?

      • Lionir [he/him]
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        54 months ago

        Yeah, it’s just a room with toilet and sink that can be locked from the inside.

    • @CameronDev
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      64 months ago

      Retrofitting infrastructure is difficult, and the end results are often quite bizarre.

      At a building I visited recently, the toilets are on either side of a hallway. You can go left, into the womens washroom (sinks), and then carry on through another door to the womens bathroom (toilets). If you go right, you enter the gender neutral washroom (sinks), and then through another door to the mens toilets… It just doesnt make sense having a gender neutral washroom directly attached to the explicitly mens toilets. It confused a few visitors as well, as they didnt know where the mens toilets were, as they arent marked from the hallway, and its not immediately obvious that they would be behind the gender neutral washroom…

      There, now we have both ranted :)

      • Lionir [he/him]
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        54 months ago

        I’m sure it’s hard but the administration has made plans for new bathrooms and repeatedly made the same mistakes. In the new developments, the bathroom stalls with the infrastructure to accommodate people are always in men and women’s bathrooms so there is now actually no places for people that conform to neither.

        • @CameronDev
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          54 months ago

          Well, if its a new project/building then there isnt any excuse really.

          Ive never understood why they are segregated in the first place, just put a bunch of toilets in a bunch of properly walled off rooms, and leave people to handle their shit.

          • Icalasari
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            14 months ago

            The one argument they use - Rapists - Also never makes sense to me. If somebody is going to do that, they are not going to care about the symbol on the door

            Making the toilets each a self contained room with sturdier doors (ie not have those stupid ass gaps that people can crawl under/over/shimmy something through to fuck with the lock) meanwhile…

  • @[email protected]
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    54 months ago

    Wait. Are there not also handicapped stalls in each the women’s and men’s bathrooms?

    I see that configuration all the time here. Men’s, Women’s, each with handi-capped stalls, plus one or two Disabled/Family/Gender Neutral stand-alone restrooms.

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      No, there are not handicapped stalls in the other bathrooms. In this particular art gallery/museum the womens’ and mens’ are very difficult even for some disabled people who can walk, because each is fitted with two fire doors (heavy doors that self close) - one to get into the sink area and another to access the stalls area.

      If it was like @[email protected] was saying, I might feel differently but this is in a new part of the building and they are only a few years old. There’s also an enormous supply closet next to them. It really shouldn’t have to be like this.

      • Tippon
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        23 months ago

        Yeah, they’ve got no excuse then. It sounds like they just don’t give a shit about disabled people or anyone who’s not cis.

    • Tippon
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      34 months ago

      It depends on the building. I’m in the UK, and a lot of our buildings are old, and have been updated over the years to add facilities. For example, if the toilets were installed before disabled toilets were a thing, fitting them in with the regular toilets would need a complete renovation. Adding a separate room still needs work, but maybe not as much.