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spaduf@slrpnk.netM to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 2 years ago

We Know “NoFap” Is Misleading Men About Masturbation. It Might Be More Dangerous Than That.

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We Know “NoFap” Is Misleading Men About Masturbation. It Might Be More Dangerous Than That.

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spaduf@slrpnk.netM to Men's Liberation@lemmy.ca · 2 years ago
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People in this community are hoping to fix their lives. But if they slip up, things can get worse.
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    it’s unlikely that PornHub is going to change you from a liker of vanilla sex to a connoisseur of amputee gangbangs—and certainly not in real life.

    Challenge accepted!

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      Porn made me hate most porn. Artificial, misogynist, abuse-fantasy garbage.

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        There is a ton of loving, clearly consensual stuff out there too.

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          There is. And I’ve found a lot of couples that are great. But it’s hard to find that amid the millions of “found stepsister asleep” quasi-rape fantasies. And of the ones that do seem loving, it often seems to trend towards the common tropes when they try to make a living at it. So I mostly avoid filmed porn.

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        I agree, I thank to all real exhibitionist sharing their normal intime moments with us. Professional porn, even more one pretending to be “amateur” is just awful.

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        In case anyone is interested Dipsea is recommended for exotic stories which many people enjoy more than visual media. Erika Lust is recommended for ethically created visual porn. Both have a large variety of content depending on what you like. Also free trials

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      so I was always destined to be a degenerate, it isn’t the internet’s fault?

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        Just as god always intended, you degenerate

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        Oh man, the shit that gets me nowadays…

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        They do but it’s disappointing as no-one can get their leg over.

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      This better not awaken anything in me.

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        It was already in you, buried deep.

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