• andrew_bidlaw@sh.itjust.works
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      4 months ago

      Not really. It’s just my parents had a hard time when I was born (russian 90s + medical issues) and I lacked contact with them working long irregular shifts. When I was failing in something or just sad, it was easier to imagine I’m of alien origin and don’t belong there, than to talk this out with them. It’s probably not on them, and far from the worst stories other lemmings can tell, but it did hurt.

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        4 months ago

        That’s incredibly sad. Kind of reminds me of my dad. My mom was better, but depending on the context she could be just as bad.

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          4 months ago

          It’s great we don’t depend on them anymore but it sure raise a question of how to be better than them, to tell when a kid is in trouble and to know how to help them even if it’s hard.