People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that they’ll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure they’d date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things aren’t equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. There’s no “not an asshole” filter, for example.
The “dodged a bullet” idiom is well-meaning, but after a while, you feel like a soldier who survived storming the beach at Normandy, what with all of the bullets you dodged.
Yeah, that’s pretty weird. Like even if I weirdly wanted to sleep, like actually sleep, on top of another person, I’m fairly spectating I couldn’t. It would just be uncomfortable.
I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys I’ve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didn’t want to be with a guy so much taller than me because I’m not used to feeling short and it isn’t a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks I’m irritated by tall men’s obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
I get it but maybethey should try to meet the person first It could be very little to no difference or the person could be so awesome that it doesn’t mater.
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I don’t get it. Is there a rotating 1kW laser mounted on my head that may decapitate a woman slightly taller then me I didn’t recognize all my life?!
People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that they’ll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure they’d date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things aren’t equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. There’s no “not an asshole” filter, for example.
So what “If you’re not 6 feet tall, don’t bother” really means is “Hit me up anyway, we might click.”
No, it means ‘I’m a vapid person and you’re dodging a bullet by swiping left on me’.
Seriously, those people are a godsend. Thank you for telling me to stay far away lol I’d never want to be dating someone like that.
The “dodged a bullet” idiom is well-meaning, but after a while, you feel like a soldier who survived storming the beach at Normandy, what with all of the bullets you dodged.
I also put “I have a small dick” and no women want to reply to me.
So what “If you’re not 6 feet tall, don’t bother” really means is “Hit me up anyway, we might click.”
1kW is too low
yeah It makes no sense.
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What.
Did he love the fact that she was taller than him or hate it?
Yeah, that’s pretty weird. Like even if I weirdly wanted to sleep, like actually sleep, on top of another person, I’m fairly spectating I couldn’t. It would just be uncomfortable.
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I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys I’ve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didn’t want to be with a guy so much taller than me because I’m not used to feeling short and it isn’t a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks I’m irritated by tall men’s obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
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That’s fine. I might wear them too.
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I get it but maybethey should try to meet the person first It could be very little to no difference or the person could be so awesome that it doesn’t mater.
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Haha yeah perhaps if you live in a country where that’s rare.
You have to be ~2 meters here to get comments, and even that isn’t really rare. 210 would probably start turning heads a bit.