My read is that they are saying the doctor should have said “it is your choice”. Instead, the doctor said “it needs to be up to your future husband”. This is worse than the FUD about why their future husband would not like it.
How so? If I were considering a vasectomy, I would expect to be told that it may be an issue for my future wife. I would take issue if I were told that such a decision should be left to her, and not mine to make.
The gynecologist didn’t tell her it “may be an issue for her future husband”. The gynecologist “told her the choice should be up to her future husband.” That sounds a lot like something you would take issue with:
I would take issue if I were told that such a decision [vasectomy] should be left to her [my future wife], and not mine to make.
However by the logic in your first comment, we could say that being told the decision should be up to your future wife is a lot more benign than a urologist denying you your autonomy (ie, only your future wife can authorize your vasectomy). Because that’s a relevant comparison with which to evaluate a Canadian healthcare experience /s
You seem to have misinterpreted my posts. Informed decisions are ok, but someone else making that decision is not. It’s not sexist, because it works exactly the same if the roles are reversed.
Thank you for making this comment. The issue here isn’t having or not having reproductive autonomy (ie, being able to decide for oneself whether to have tubal litigation or vasectomy). The issue is having or not having one’s reproductive autonomy respected by their healthcare provider during a healthcare encounter.
This is a HCP not respecting a patient’s reproductive autonomy:
“(the) gynecologist told her the choice should be up to her future husband”.
Subtle sexist comment right here folks.
Real question, why do you say that?
My read is that they are saying the doctor should have said “it is your choice”. Instead, the doctor said “it needs to be up to your future husband”. This is worse than the FUD about why their future husband would not like it.
Where is the sexism?
You and me both, where?
I have read that comment a few times. I can’t see the sexism anywhere.
How so? If I were considering a vasectomy, I would expect to be told that it may be an issue for my future wife. I would take issue if I were told that such a decision should be left to her, and not mine to make.
The gynecologist didn’t tell her it “may be an issue for her future husband”. The gynecologist “told her the choice should be up to her future husband.” That sounds a lot like something you would take issue with:
However by the logic in your first comment, we could say that being told the decision should be up to your future wife is a lot more benign than a urologist denying you your autonomy (ie, only your future wife can authorize your vasectomy). Because that’s a relevant comparison with which to evaluate a Canadian healthcare experience /s
You seem to have misinterpreted my posts. Informed decisions are ok, but someone else making that decision is not. It’s not sexist, because it works exactly the same if the roles are reversed.
Thank you for making this comment. The issue here isn’t having or not having reproductive autonomy (ie, being able to decide for oneself whether to have tubal litigation or vasectomy). The issue is having or not having one’s reproductive autonomy respected by their healthcare provider during a healthcare encounter.
This is a HCP not respecting a patient’s reproductive autonomy: