“We are all culpable,” Matt Nelson said before lighting himself on fire. This is the third such incident in a year.

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    Suicide ideation is never good. There are always better alternatives than taking your own life.

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      Having thoughts of suicide is not the same thing as committing to an act of protest that may take your life.

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      This isn’t suicide in the sense that the word “suicide” implies. It was a deliberate political statement. Calling it suicide misrepresents and diminishes the intent behind Matt Nelson’s actions

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        People make plenty of excuses for why they kill themselves. Plenty of scared and lonely people have complete manifestos on why they are actually winning by ending their own lives.

        The end result is still someone killed themselves and left a hole in the lives of everyone who cared about them. And it should not be celebrated.

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          How is ensuring his message is heard celebrating suicide? Are you saying it’s better if we ignore this message that he felt so strongly about as to literally end his life? What in God’s name are you trying to say? He ended his life in an act of protest against the genocide and ethnic cleansing of Palestine. The idea that we should not respond to that is genuinely offensive. Your description of him as scared and lonely without even knowing him is also genuinely offensive.

          I have lost friends to suicide. I myself have been suicidal. I don’t know anyone who ended their lives by committing acts of self immolation in front of a genocidal colonial nation’s consulate.

          What about the Vietnamese monks who self immolated in protest of the persecution of buddhists in South Vietnam? Thích Quảng Đức was one of them. His action is regarded as heroic. It would be offensive to suggest that his message in death not be remembered. It would also be offensive to suggest that he killed himself for some other reason. As though there’s no conceivable motivation someone could have for taking their own life other than mental health problems.

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            Apparently since US is endorsing Israel, what Israel govt is doing is fully right and any opposition can be reduced to meaningless squabbles, smh (/s)

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            So that means we need to rent a billboard to make sure everyone knows Little Johnny Smith killed himself because Amy Jo wouldn’t go to the prom with him?

            There is a reason that news outlets have increasingly made it a point to not publish suicide letters. Whether they be individuals slitting their own throats or kids committing suicide by cop. It just leads to people who can find a political use for their death glorifying it… as we are seeing in this thread.

            As for people who have commit suicide to advance a political or military agenda of an organization: We glorify Thích Quảng Đức even though, to quote wikipedia

            Quảng Đức’s act increased international pressure on Diệm and led him to announce reforms with the intention of mollifying the Buddhists. However, the promised reforms were not implemented, leading to a deterioration in the dispute

            Do we also glorify Japanese Kamikaze pilots in World War 2? What about child soldiers so manipulated that they are willing to die for a warlord?

            Suicide is NEVER the answer*. And all glorifying it and calling people “heroes” for killing themselves does is give scared and lonely people an excuse. They aren’t ending their own lives, they are dying for something more important, yeah…

            And anyone whose immediate reaction is “how can I use this death to my own advantage”… they are a fucking monster.

            *: Well, outside of euthanasia for medical reasons but that is a much more complicated topic that requires a lot of discussion on the proper way to ensure someone is ending it because of quality of life and not because they are lonely or angry.

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              This is offensively uninformed and misguided. Giving your very life to protest the way your people are being oppressed, how your people are being slaughtered, is maybe one of the most heroic things you can do. It’s wrong that these people felt they had to give their lives. Not that they did. If we lived in a just world, people wouldn’t have to martyr themselves to draw attention to genocide.

              The suicide letter you’re referencing in the first paragraph has literally nothing to do with the subject of this post or my previous comment. You’re trying to conflate suicidal attempts and ideation from mental health problems with martyrdom. They’re not the same thing. And I know that you know that, and you conflating self-immolation to protest genocide with suicide over peer rejection is disgusting on both sides.

              “To advance a political or military agenda of an organization” is such a wild misunderstanding of why Thích Quảng Đức died that I’m almost convinced you skimmed the article just to find out if what he did was effective without even glancing at why he did it. If you’re going to look him up, I gave his name so you could do, have the decency to learn why he died.

              His self-immolation was actually a defining moment at the end of the Diệm government. Him and his peers were absolutely successful in drawing international attention to what was being done to buddhists in South Vietnam, and the picture taken of him burning is one of the most famous pictures ever taken.

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              So that means we need to rent a billboard to make sure everyone knows Little Johnny Smith killed himself because Amy Jo wouldn’t go to the prom with him?

              He’s protesting genocide in the loudest way he could imagine. Degrading his action as something so shallow is disgusting.

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              Nobody is saying that you should necessarily CELEBRATE his suicide. However. In a society and a government system that is failing to respond to its public on nearly every level. You have 2 options for what to do to stop something that needs to be stopped in the here and now not in 10-15 years. You can commit acts of terror and use force of arks to disrupt your government internally. Maybe get a gang together with firearms and disrupt arms shipments by attacking manufacturing plants or sabotaging arms convoys. Or kill yourself in an act of protest to get more public attention and pressure to the issue. Or you can bitch and whine and make noise like many of us do. Do I recommend anybody else engage in what that man just did? No. But I’m not going to dishonor and disrespect the entire life of a human being for desperately trying to draw attention to a noble cause. Its tragic what he did. But do not discredit and dismiss the life of another so callously.

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          They provided a statement. Seeing as you’re alive and commenting, I think it’s safe to assume you aren’t them and, therefore, aren’t able to speak on what was happening in their head leading up to this. So how about we take this person at their word and stop making ignorant ass comments that disrespect someone who showed more bravery and resolve than anybody in this thread ever will? People can do with their lives as they please. You don’t have to agree with it but you also shouldn’t be a dick about it

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          Self-immolation as a form of protest has millennia of history behind it, especially in Buddhism and Hinduism. Ancient Greeks have records of it. The Indus Valley have records of it. Ancient Chinese have records of it. Tibetan monks set themselves on fire in order to protest for an independent Tibet. Norman Morris set himself on fire at the Pentagon to protest the Vietnam War.

          Please don’t reduce an active form of protest against someone’s oppression as someone simply “killing themselves” and “shouldn’t be celebrated”. It’s a pretty narrow and callous world view that may reflect your experience, but not of wider human history.

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            I mean, taking the conquered as slaves also has a lot of history behind it. So does ritualistic sacrifice to get your way (hmmm).

            But hey, that is a good enough reason. So please let me know who I should cheer for and call a hero for making the world a better place by killing themselves. Just like I need to know who should be property of others and who shouldn’t

            Or maybe, just maybe, we can realize that it is massively fucked up to celebrate suicide just because it might be politically advantageous even though, time and time again, it isn’t even that?

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              Yeah, this is a pretty westernized and infantilizing view. Way to take someone’s autonomy and compare it to -checks notes- slavery and involuntary human sacrifice.

              Please read some eastern philosophy and history before making comments like this. Suicide isn’t stigmatized outside of Abrahamic viewpoints.

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                I genuinely don’t care if someone’s holy book or ancient traditions say killing yourself is fine.

                I very much do care about the family and friends that are left behind to process the deaths of loved ones. As well as the lives that are cut short because someone decided the world would be a better place with them dead.

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                  I… get the feeling you’re not trying to have a conversation about the particular incident in the OP article. Which is fine, and good, but don’t overproject.

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          I think Matt Nelson is a hero. His death was not one of fear and loneliness. It was the ultimate act of empathy, compassion, and humanity.

          I’m going to celebrate his heroic deed, and I encourage everyone to do the same.

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              I will take advantage of his death to spread understanding, empathy, and a hopeful end to the genocide.

              He tried to die for a purpose, why are you so intent on stripping his death of that purpose? You are the one who dishonors the dead.

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                  He died for his own cause, I am only trying to amplify and honor his message.

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      Suicidal people seek painless and quick ways to die. This is the opposite because it isn’t suicide. It’s a revolutionary act.

      That said? I also don’t think we should be killing ourselves to protest this war. It isn’t we who deserve to die for this genocide.

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        It’s not a revolutionary act, it’s suicide. He killed himself. And it changed nothing.

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          Individual revolutionary actions never change anything until suddenly they do. The Arab Spring is an obvious example.

          I want to be clear, this is a tragedy. A person opposed to genocide just died and that’s terrible, and furthermore, it’s our fault because we didn’t give him any options to oppose genocide. If we were organized he’d have options. We aren’t, and he was alone.

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            The Arab Spring is an obvious example.

            And how did that one, specifically, turn out in the long run? I’m not an expert, but it is my understanding that the Arab Spring is considered by most to have been a failure.

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              Well, it successfully overthrew several governments and collapsed several countries. It accomplished something.

              The problem, of course, is that there wasn’t an organized revolutionary movement behind it. Spontaneous uprisings almost never work out for the better, we can’t just overthrow the government and then expect things to naturally work themselves out.

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            He had a lot of options, but because the genocide is imaginary, the solutions are, too

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              Genocide denial.

              Tens of thousands of children blown to pieces and buried under rubble. Systematically starving and depriving the population of sanitation, clean water, soap, antibiotics, or literally any means of surviving a severe wound. There’s no anesthesia in the entire strip, and Israel prevents aid workers from bringing any inside, so they have to do all treatment and amputations without it. Israeli soldiers round up children into prisons and torture them. They target aid workers, reporters, doctors for sniping. They rape and torture prisoners, cut their limbs off, and then they brag about it.

              And it’s why we shouldn’t kill ourselves. We aren’t the ones that deserve to die.

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                Genocide denial

                I mean, yes, I deny that fighting a defensive war while taking reasonable precautions against civilian loss of life is a “genocide”, that’s correct.

                Israel is not “systematically starving” Gazans; Gazans receive more food aid from Israel than any population in the world receives from anyone.

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                  They receive far less food aid than what was coming in before this phase of the genocide, and back then Israel counted the calories crossing the border. They were only receiving enough to survive before, and now they’re getting less. That means, by definition, the amount coming in is not enough to prevent starvation.

                  That’s why the UN and WHO and HRW and every other credible humanitarian agency has highlighted the famine and placed the blame squarely on Israel for starvation as a weapon.

                  Also, the small amount of aid crossing the border can’t be transported anywhere because all the roads are rubble. There’s people hiding in the tunnel that have never seen an aid truck.

                  Also there’s no way to even cook anything because they have no power and no fuel and barely anything to even safely burn. No refrigeration. No clean water to wash or cook with. Rotting body parts and open sewage and soot and silicate dust everywhere. It’s a death camp.

                  You foul fucking monster. Stop spreading lies.

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                    They receive far less food aid than what was coming in before this phase of the genocide

                    They receive 3500 calories per day per person. How much more do they need? They’re already the fattest assholes in the whole Levant.

                    That’s why the UN and WHO and HRW and every other credible humanitarian agency has highlighted the famine and placed the blame squarely on Israel for starvation as a weapon.

                    But the UN analysis deliberately ignores most of the food aid. It even says it does.

                    Starvation in Gaza has been totally refuted.

                    Also, the small amount of aid crossing the border can’t be transported anywhere because all the roads are rubble.

                    It can be moved and distributed by hand, if Hamas were willing to do so.

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          And it changed nothing.

          By that metric no human effort has any ultimate meaning, and choosing to live over choosing to die is just as tedious.

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            His comment is nihilism incarnate. Nihilists are people IMO that should largely be outright dismissed.

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              Nihilists are people IMO that should largely be outright dismissed.

              You clearly do not know what that word means. I would urge you to educate yourself before dismissing an entire group of people.

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          We’re talking about it. I am think about Palestinian kids being unhappy and not havijg clean water instead of eating snacks and doing other things. Saying it changed nothing is factually incorrect.

          There are some people who do not have the view that Israel is commiting genocide or that Israel is justified in killing Palestinians because of the original attack. Some people think the issue is complicated and may not be sure of what to think and may rethink their opinion of this. You’re just wrong.

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            You’re right about this. When everything with Isreal first happened I thought they were justified since they were attacked first.
            Now… now not so much. As much as I hate that people are killing themselves, I probably wouldn’t have looked closer at what’s going on and changed my mind.

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      There are always better alternatives than taking your own life.

      You are not entitled to me choosing to live just because you emotionally prefer that outcome.

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          Thank you! Being judged negatively by a member of species which fails to feed children, and instead seems to prefer giving money to people who preach hatred against groups based on their identity (or just funding endless pieces of media which are all broadly similar) instead, I will take that as a compliment.

          Please know that, when I die - whether that is by my own hand or not - I suspect I will not think ‘wow I wish I’d been here for longer’. I’ve been here for 42 years. It’s not great. People do not live up to my lofty moral ideals of supporting each other to make a better world.

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          I will hurt myself if I decide to. It’s not like I enjoy being around humans. Many humans hurt themselves and each other as a matter of course, and it is not edifying to see.

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        So if someone set themselves on fire to protest immigration or against gay rights you’d say ‘let’s sir down and work out how to ban homosexuality because it’s obviously a valid issue if someone killed themselves over it’

        Of course not, how would you respond if 50 kkk members killed themselves to protest in favor of segregation? Or if a Facebook group full of flat earthers burned themselves to protest? Would that make their cause valid?

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          Find me one self immolation for those things and I’ll concede the point. Otherwise the fact you can’t find one proves no one would ever self immolate something so stupid.

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      I have a strong desire to go to Gaza to support people there. That would be a kind of suicide, like suicide by cop, but instead suicide by regular bombing of areas designated by the military force doing the bombing as a zone that they wouldn’t bomb and I knew that when I went to that area.

      Sadly, me being killed as a non-Palestinian by a military force which is killing indiscriminately would change nothing. It is apparent that many people think it is okay for a military force to kill indiscriminately. No number of deaths of Western people would be shocking, because ‘they shouldn’t be there’. Where is ‘there’? A place where Palestinians are trapped, in order to be killed. The infrahumanisation of Palestinians has been there from the very start, it was assumed from the conception of the opinion, and from the conception of the children.

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        OK… But setting yourself on fire in a country on the other side of the world is better how?

        If you’re willing to give up your life to help Palestinians, then actually help them. It’s pretty simple.

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          OK… But setting yourself on fire in a country on the other side of the world is better how?

          It’s what they wanted to do. If you believe in people having free will, then you have to accept that this is reasonable.

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        If you feel so strongly about it - do it. The likelihood of you being killed is pretty low compared to the amount of people you’d actually help by helping distribute food, etc. If it’s too far away, then you can always start small - volunteer at your local food pantry, soup kitchen, etc.

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        Don’t spend your time with terrorists yall have lost your minds. Too much compassionate eurothink

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      Exactly. All this person has accomplished is making those opposed to genocide seem like extremists while taking someone away from all the people who care about him.

      And it should not need to be pointed out why calling him a “hero” and cheering for his death is maybe the wrong takeaway from this.