Hello Internet,

I have trouble with any underwear I ever owned. I am wearing XXL or size 8 underwear but they tend to make me uncomfortable in different matters.

Waering loose Boxershorts is okay to my wiener but my balls are to free. Also they tend to crawl upwards during the day.

Tighter Shorts have a good appearance and are my main underwear. But I struggle with them as well: My thing turtles uncomfortably making me insane so I can pull it into position. Also, they tend to screw at the bottom after half an year.

Asking this within my circles only earns sarcastic comments or the experience isn’t shared. So I ask you: How do I determine the correct underwear for me and am I missing something? If you relate and have solved this issue, please recommend me some underwear.

  • catsarebadpeople@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    SAXX

    They are pricey but totally worth it. They last a long time, are very comfortable and have a pouch for your stuff. You can usually find deals on their website for things like discontinued holiday prints. I don’t really care what mine look like so I wear a lot of Christmas themed boxer briefs. I’d recommend the Vibe.

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      I moved trom Saxx to Bn3th because I found they stretched out less over time and thus last longer.

      Design wise they’re practically identical to Saxx.

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        25 days ago

        Got my BN3TH trunks from overseas today. I divided my 104 cm by 2.38 instead of 2.54. And therefore I ordered XXL. They fit perfectly but my trunk may be too small… sadbutshrugs

        Sitting down was already clearing my first problem. I will wear them over the weekend since I will sit for an extended time and will move a lot as well.

        Initially, the cuts on the back are bad for my butt; But this may due to the very loose size I got and may change once washed at 40°C.

        I will report back after the weekend + after the next load on my washing machine with an edit. Thank you, Sir.

        // Edit:

        Since I did an follow-up post I need to clarify:

        By a very loose cut I mean that the material has room to stretch. The BN3TH shorts have a bezieré cut on the back which compliments the men’s butt. They fit tightly but the cut is too loose, meaning I could benefit from it if I ordered the correct size. XL would align perfectly on both sides.

        These undies are for Showers but Gainers. After receiving SAXX undies I recommend those for the latter - like me.

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    2 months ago

    This is a message to all straight guys: buy gay underwear!

    Get yourself on Andrew Christian, Box, or Aussiebum, or any of the other underwear sites that cater to gay men. We have styles of underwear you wouldn’t believe. Yes there’ll be rainbows on a bunch of them, but there’s plenty that are more “reserved”.

    BUT, what we do have is a wide range of styles that are comfortable and sexy. We have underwear that separates your cock from your balls, which are really comfortable. We have styles that allow you to show off, or act demure. We have boxer shorts that have freaking pockets!

    And because the queer community largely (not always, but we’re working on it) accepts all body types, we even cater to larger guys who need a little more room in their smalls.

    Seriously boys, get yourself some sexy gay undies. Your junk, and your partners, will thank you.

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      It never for one second occurred to me that a gay me could have a wider choice of underwear than a straight me currently does. Firing up the private browser tab as we speak - thanks for the info.

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      2 months ago

      I was about to say something similar. Like I started wearing some “women’s” underwear and running shorts even before I realized I wasn’t a guy. Obviously for people that aren’t trying to hide things I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it, but some of the underwear I have now is just better than tons men’s underwear I wore pre-transition. Just materials, and seam placement, and color options, all of it. You can still find boxers and everything. It’s kind of just better.

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      Most people would consider that I wear “gay” underwear but I am a straight guy. In high school my girlfriend convinced me to wear a thong for her and it’s been thongs, g-strings, bikinis and panties since. If you are an athletic guy or get hot easily then women’s panties are also a good option as they tend to use lighter material that will stretch enough in the crotch for a guy.

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    2 months ago

    Nothing fancy here, but Hanes makes boxer briefs with a little pouch to give your boys a little extra support.

    I’m sure other brands offer a similar style, and may be even better, but I can at least vouch for the Hanes.

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    2 months ago

    Boxer briefs are the best of both worlds. Not too tight like a regular brief underwear, not too loose like boxer shorts, and still has adequate ball support.

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      2 months ago

      If your balls hang that low, it’s time to retire, sit on the sidewalk in a rocking chair, sip sweet tea, and wait for the nuclear annihilation

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          🎵🎶 Do your balls hang low?

          Do they wobble to and fro?

          Can you tie them in a knot?

          Can you tie them in a bow?

          Can you throw them o’er your shoulder,

          Like a Continental Soldier?

          Do your balls hang low? 🎶🎵

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    2 months ago

    My friend, it’s like searching for true love. You’re going to have to go out there and spend the money and try on different styles until you find the right one.

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        No recommendation is any good. Again, as with true love, what makes the heart of one man soar like an eagle will only throw another into the nadir of despair. Many a man rejoices to have their intimate areas caressed by Calvin Klein, but the same brand has strangled the gonads of the unfortunate few.

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          2 months ago

          Yes but at least they are getting unique ideas and not just whatever ad bullshit the general internet feeds them.

          I also love the A+ prose.

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    2 months ago

    Sizes are very different depending on where you live, so I’m not sure what size you actually are. I have underwear from Asia that’s XXL, and underwear from North America that’s medium.

    Have you tried pocketed underwear?
    It’ll stop your balls from flopping around without squishing your dick because the fabric is too tight. If you follow the “Keep it slick (hairless) if you want it licked” way of thinking for your balls, it’ll also prevent “batwing” by keeping them from touching your thighs.

    All of the underwear I wear now are pocketed, some of them are codpiece-styled, which can be fun

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      Cut is also a big factor. After my breakup I got like a big pack of some cheap Amazon boxers and they were terrible (likely designed around small Chinese men and then badly upscaled). Too small (despite being XXL), and the cut was so weird… When walking around the legs would constantly shuffle up and my junk was consequently sticking out to one of the sides, so I had to frequently do the stupid shuffling in my pockets to pull the legs back down. Got some boxers from Schiesser after that, a 2 pack which was of course much more expensive but something I’d just buy with every other order so that I could manage the money and they’re a world of difference. The cut is better, they’re larger and the legs are a little longer. No more moving up while walking at all and the fabric is also a lot softer / more comfy.

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    I did a thing a couple years ago where I dropped about $500 buying every style of boxer brief that looked appealing or had a strong fanbase. I tried saxx, Duluth, all citizens, meundies, bn3th, Mac Weldon, Lululemon, Tommy John, separatec, and probably a few others.

    All Citizens are my winner overall - the BN3TH are also really nice - I actually like their cuts and design better, but the materials don’t hold up nearly as well as the All Citizens. All Citizens are also much better value, IMO.

    For the All Citizens, I’m specifically talking about their Paradise Pocket boxer briefs. My legs are proportionally beefy in comparison to my waist, so it’s also nice that All Citizens offer an “Athletic Fit” option that keeps the legs from being overly tight. Just snug enough not to ride up without pinching or leaving a visible line visible through pants.

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    Got myself some StepOne boxers, best undies I’ve ever owned no questions asked. Miles better than anything else I’ve worn, I’m incapable of going back to lesser pants now. They are made with bamboo fiber, have a low friction glide panel between your legs and have a pouch for the junk to sit in. They aren’t cheap but worth every penny in my opinion.

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    I think I used to be in the same situation, used to always go for boxer-shorts since i liked having the swinging freedom, but my balls would get uncomfortable.

    In comes Dual-Pouch underwear, best of both worlds for me. They look like normal underwear except they have a hole to put the penis in so it drops to the second pouch.

    You get a good ball support and you don’t have to squish your dick for it or the other case where everything is free, but so are the balls. This fixes that for me

    I got the brand ‘Separatec’ style: everyday

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    I can recommend Duluth boxers and briefs, they have a few that tend to hold you in place. They’re not cheap, but they generally last a pretty long time and are comfortable. Hanes are good as well, just found they were slightly less comfortable.

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    Having went through this recently and tried ~5 brands, I recommend Duluth. I like the dang soft, but I’m still exploring their line up.

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        2 months ago

        Good to know, but haven’t had this happen to me personally. Do you remember when you bought them and what kind?

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          Nope, too long ago. I remember enjoying the initial quality but being let down within a short time by the longevity (or lack there of) for $20 a pair.