I have a horrible crush on someone who

  1. I THINK might be attracted to me, but I am terrible at figuring these things out.
  2. We are both married and have kids, and
  3. He is a doctor. I’m…not. Medical ethics, etc. says he could get in a lot of trouble.
  4. We have known each other for several years and nothing has happened. I definitely think he was hinting early on, but I was afraid I might be misreading so I dropped the ball, so to speak, and now I just want to kick myself for it.

Because I am a total idiot, I am obsessively thinking about ways to let him know that I am interested in him the next time I see him (like asking to grab coffee, which I have been afraid to do because I have a pathological fear of rejection). Guys, is this incredibly stupid? Would you ever risk this much because you really wanted to sleep with someone? I do NOT want a serious thing and am not going to ask him to leave his wife or anything like that. I just really want to kiss the guy…and some other things.

  • latenightnoir@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    27 days ago

    All I can say is that the repercussions which ensue when (not if, when, it’s inevitable) you two are discovered will never be worth the pleasures of sex. Even if just from the perspective of duration.

    My advice would be talking things out with a good therapist. I’m not trying to demean you, I’m not making a moral judgement (things are neither bad nor good, they just are), I’m just saying this desire may stem from something completely different. In addition, someone who’s trained to navigate complicated situations will always be able to help you achieve more clarity than People On The Internet™.