which is about how women have to deal with this bullshit all the time online
The point has been made. If you have more to say about it, go ahead.
You don’t need to participate, if this isn’t the subject that you want to talk about.
The unspoken thing I guess being that I shouldn’t participate if that isn’t something I have anything to say about. It sounds like something you want is for discussions that can be considered to be about women’s issues to be narrowly framed as such, and think there’s something wrong with engaging with the discussion in a way that doesn’t do this. I think this is much less reasonable than anything the comic itself is saying. There is a big difference between talking about the same issue but in a broader way, and remarking something overtly irrelevant and hostile like “what about circumcision”. That isn’t to say that spaces exclusively for narrowly framed discussion about women’s issues shouldn’t exist, but I don’t see a reason this comment thread has to be one, or why not considering it to be one should be regarded as offensive.
I’m part of the problem, because I keep replying and giving you an audience, so consider this my last reply.
When someone is raising an issue, and you’re considering if you want to expand or generalize the topic, ask yourself “will the person with the issue benefit from what I’m about to say?”
If they wont, and they’re not hurting anyone, then maybe stfu, especially if you inhabit a position of power, in society, relative to them. If it’s still important to you, then go start another conversation elsewhere.
In this case, they won’t, and you probably do, and you insisted on speaking up here anyways, which makes you just like all the dudes trying to make this about themselves. You do not pass the vibe check.
I’ll just say again that for the original comment that this is about, leaving aside anything I wrote, that demand is not justified, and I don’t regret pushing back on it.
The point has been made. If you have more to say about it, go ahead.
The unspoken thing I guess being that I shouldn’t participate if that isn’t something I have anything to say about. It sounds like something you want is for discussions that can be considered to be about women’s issues to be narrowly framed as such, and think there’s something wrong with engaging with the discussion in a way that doesn’t do this. I think this is much less reasonable than anything the comic itself is saying. There is a big difference between talking about the same issue but in a broader way, and remarking something overtly irrelevant and hostile like “what about circumcision”. That isn’t to say that spaces exclusively for narrowly framed discussion about women’s issues shouldn’t exist, but I don’t see a reason this comment thread has to be one, or why not considering it to be one should be regarded as offensive.
You just can’t help yourself
There are conversations where it’s better to just leave it, but I don’t see this as one of them.
I’m part of the problem, because I keep replying and giving you an audience, so consider this my last reply.
When someone is raising an issue, and you’re considering if you want to expand or generalize the topic, ask yourself “will the person with the issue benefit from what I’m about to say?”
If they wont, and they’re not hurting anyone, then maybe stfu, especially if you inhabit a position of power, in society, relative to them. If it’s still important to you, then go start another conversation elsewhere.
In this case, they won’t, and you probably do, and you insisted on speaking up here anyways, which makes you just like all the dudes trying to make this about themselves. You do not pass the vibe check.
I’ll just say again that for the original comment that this is about, leaving aside anything I wrote, that demand is not justified, and I don’t regret pushing back on it.