I don’t mind talking about it. As of now, a moderate degree of arousal is too painful to be worthwhile, so masturbation and oral are out.

The sympathetic muscular response to the pain causes persistent contraction of the lower abdominal and pelvic muscles, leaving them way too tight. I’ve been working with PT to stretch and relax them, but the progress has been slow. I can finally use a Valium suppository without horrible pain from application, so anal play is out until I can control my pelvic floor muscles again.

I appreciate the estim idea! Who knows. I’ve been so surprised by what hurts and what doesn’t since my injury that I couldn’t predict how that would work. I’ll give it a try. Thanks!