• Kusimulkku@lemm.ee
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    1 month ago

    I was thinking more when he’s asking about going hiking. At that point it would probably be good for both, either side to make sure what the expectations are.

    Of course if you start off right away with “I HAVE A BOYFRIEND” then that won’t be looked at very favourably lol

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      1 month ago

      Tbh, it sounds like she did try her best to clarify by mentioning her boyfriend before they actually went to the destination. I could easily see that she perceived her friend asking her to go hiking, so she excitedly agreed. Got home, realized what that would look like, and thought she might bring it up in a way that wouldn’t look like the “I have a boyfriend, FYI” trope

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        1 month ago

        Tbh, it sounds like she did try her best to clarify by mentioning her boyfriend before they actually went to the destination.

        She mentioned it pretty much last minute on the day they were supposed to go. We don’t know the full circumstances and I get that you’re trying to see it in the best light but the situation was far from optimal. Best moment to ask would’ve been before agreeing, so whether purposefully or just because she didn’t realize, that’s where her error happened. Not to say that the guy couldn’t have clarified it was a date.