Yes, and it’s an absolute TORTURE. I can’t say I have any good advice other than maybe trying to structure things so you are forced to get around to it. Or just embrace the fact that you’re flighty and jump from one thing to another. Anyways, I should stop scrolling lemmy and finish that book I started last month.

What helps me with those kinds of things is to focus on enjoying the thing, whatever it is. Especially digital stuff that occupies no space in my home, I accept that it’s ok to do something as long as I enjoy it, and when it becomes repetitive or boring I can just stop.

Of course sometimes you need to push against this a bit when you know there is a slightly unpleasant section blocking more enjoyable content. The big takeaway is that it’s ok to stop if you’re not enjoying yourself anymore. No one is gonna check or care.

Someone said a beautiful thing on the internet: think of playing a game like visiting a friend. You casually pop by as often as you feel like it. Some friends are really once-a-year material.

I recently picked up Derail Valley after an 8-month hiatus, and almost doubled my hours in that game over the course of two weeks (it was a lot of playing). I just felt like it.

that I really should finish

That word “should” is a tricky little fella, he implies a judgement, the question is what’s the source of that judgement?

Wayne Dyer discusses the issues and challenges of words like “should” in his book “Your Erroneous Zones” by using a Cognitive Behavioural Therapy approach: examining and rewriting how we think about things.

When I find myself using that particular word, I ask myself “should, according to who?”. Almost always I find I have an old “script” in my head about priorities, values, etc, that upon re-examining I find it’s no longer useful. Like “I bought this game, therefore I must get maximum value from it”.

Sometimes things run their course, and that’s that.

I find when I get like this I have to give it a bit of a rest for a bit. I figure either I’ve blown out my dopamine receptors to the point of non functionality, or I just need to rest. I find that only doing a small handful of things at a time helps not get in this state, easier said than done though.

Well that’s peak ADHD for you right there. New thing=dopamin. No dopamine any more = abandoned projektets. My best advice is to pick something that you can keep itterating on infinitely and keep interesting. For instance i like making smoothies and its something you can vary for ever and never run out of recipes to try. Basically food is a good hobby because there’s so much to learn from the entire world

For gaming something like Minecraft can be fun because infinitely projects, but maybe harder to stay motivated.

3d printing is also good because there’s something new constantly.

I just keep 5-10 projects and rotate between them.

It’s because:

start of thing == dopamine

finish of thing != dopamine

We yearn for the brain juice and hop from hit to hit

Neurotypical people do not have this issue, I’m told

Yeah my dude. I am surrounded by stimulus and I can’t get interested in anything.
Trying Cyberpunk again but I doubt it’ll last.