Gals I’m in trouble. Some co-workers and I went to a sporty after work event on Friday and one of them i really vibe well with.
So anyways as a bunch of people start to leave we kinda move to the side as our muscles are also done for the day and get into some deep talk about some worries that have been plaguing her.
At some point we both kinda move to go so we get moving into the changing rooms while taking the whole time. At some point I compliment her charisma and she thanks me in a cute shy tone (you never see her being shy at work). We move out and know that we won’t be taking the same train. Her’s actually just moves in to the station and she ignores it kinda and just keeps walking with me to a later station as my train doesn’t drive from that location.
The talk moves to me as well and my deeper problems and motivations and what not. Anyways as we get to the stop both our trains depart from we keep talking while waiting.
As my train is like a minute from arriving she does a thing that I kept thinking about the whole weekend: she asks really shyly if it is ok with me if she also hops into my train for the 2 stops until our lines split. Idk I could see and feel from her voice how she didn’t want our talk to end and my heart just melted. She hopped into my train for the 2 stops and then got out as planned as she had a later meetup with a friend of hers that was already planned way in advance.
Idk I’m sure I’m overthinking things and also I keep hearing how you’re not supposed to date people from your workplace… but I felt drawn to her from the moment we met for the first time and her going out of her way to spend more time with me makes me quite giddy right now 😖
Idk I kinda needed to share this with y’all
Lesbian here; I agree with the guys. Dating a coworker is a horrible idea. It makes the workplace uncomfortable regardless of whether or not things work out between you two. While you’re together, it makes those around you less comfortable, and it makes it more difficult to get work done properly without being distracted. After a breakup, things get exponentially worse. Having to see and work with your ex every day would be a horrible experience for both of you, and it would obviously make things really rough at work.
On top of that, departmental policies often don’t allow coworkers to date, so both of you would be at risk of being fired if caught if that is the case at your workplace. If one of you leaves or transfers departments, then by all means go for it, but I’d say it’s a really bad idea otherwise. It’s rough having to put feelings on hold like that, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking this will be an exception to the rule.