Gals I’m in trouble. Some co-workers and I went to a sporty after work event on Friday and one of them i really vibe well with.
So anyways as a bunch of people start to leave we kinda move to the side as our muscles are also done for the day and get into some deep talk about some worries that have been plaguing her.
At some point we both kinda move to go so we get moving into the changing rooms while taking the whole time. At some point I compliment her charisma and she thanks me in a cute shy tone (you never see her being shy at work). We move out and know that we won’t be taking the same train. Her’s actually just moves in to the station and she ignores it kinda and just keeps walking with me to a later station as my train doesn’t drive from that location.
The talk moves to me as well and my deeper problems and motivations and what not. Anyways as we get to the stop both our trains depart from we keep talking while waiting.
As my train is like a minute from arriving she does a thing that I kept thinking about the whole weekend: she asks really shyly if it is ok with me if she also hops into my train for the 2 stops until our lines split. Idk I could see and feel from her voice how she didn’t want our talk to end and my heart just melted. She hopped into my train for the 2 stops and then got out as planned as she had a later meetup with a friend of hers that was already planned way in advance.
Idk I’m sure I’m overthinking things and also I keep hearing how you’re not supposed to date people from your workplace… but I felt drawn to her from the moment we met for the first time and her going out of her way to spend more time with me makes me quite giddy right now 😖
Idk I kinda needed to share this with y’all
How much do you care about your job? Do you want to be there forever?
Fuck it. It’s hard to find real connection these days. Go for it. She obviously is interested.
Edit: everyone’s saying don’t do it. That’s because we live in a weird ass puritanical society. People used to meet their spouses at work all the time back in the day. I try to avoid dating coworkers if they’re in the same dept / we work closely, but shit. Human connection is human connection and it trumps capitalism for me.
Yeah it’s tough, especially since my possible dating pool is extremely small. But also i like my workplace so it’s a tough decision. Especially since one of her worries specifically was getting to keep her job. Luckily she’s not in my team and we rarely have professional contact. Just the talking in office if we end up in the same one or at the lunch table.
I think I’m gonna invite her to a board game evening with a bunch of others some time and see how it goes. Create opportunities for her to make her intent clear and also talk things through if needed.
I think that’s far enough apart that you should go for it. Seeing each other in passing if it doesn’t work out will sting for a bit but just keep it professional and cordial.