I am also avoiding marriage because any spouse with a job can make me lose my benefits. The welfare office even made it clear my request for a live-in aide would be denied if I so much as dated the person who was doing the service. They (aka the government) really don’t want me (aka poor disabled people) to be in a relationship. What working-class couple can survive with only one income?
That’s the position that I’m in. I get PIP, the non means tested disability allowance, but because my wife works, we’re not entitled to anything else.
I can’t really complain, as we’re doing better than a lot of people, but it doesn’t exactly feel great knowing that we don’t qualify for any other help.
It’s too true. Yet the person who has a spouse (to help them get to the appointment) can lose benefits because of their spouse’s income.
I am also avoiding marriage because any spouse with a job can make me lose my benefits. The welfare office even made it clear my request for a live-in aide would be denied if I so much as dated the person who was doing the service. They (aka the government) really don’t want me (aka poor disabled people) to be in a relationship. What working-class couple can survive with only one income?
That’s the position that I’m in. I get PIP, the non means tested disability allowance, but because my wife works, we’re not entitled to anything else.
I can’t really complain, as we’re doing better than a lot of people, but it doesn’t exactly feel great knowing that we don’t qualify for any other help.
It’s why despite being with my husband almost 20 years, we aren’t married. He’d lose everything.