ID: From a Comrade posted:
"In the coming year, things will pop off. When they do, someone will volunteer to do security. They will possibly show up with a lot of battle rattle and a take-charge, can-do attitude.
Do not let them do security. Ask them to read some bell hooks. Ask them how many women they know trust them. Ask them to do some reproductive labor first, like working in a kitchen. Talk to them in depth about political theory. Understand their motivations and their relationship to violence and power.
Over half of people who want to do security, are people who should never do security. The biggest red flag for weeding out bad security people, is that they are eager to do security."
Not if you’re prioritising the safety of women ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
If someone’s coming in to be a bad actor, they’ll just lie about how many women trust them. I can’t think of a way to vet that sort of thing online.
How would you even answer that? Guess? Say “hang on, let me go and ask all the women I know if they trust me”? By trust I’m assuming we mean ‘feel safe around’. It’s dumb to rely on self reported answers, particularly if you don’t trust the interviewee in the first place (which the post clearly doesn’t)
I would imagine, one lies about it. Maybe instead of relying on the persons desire to be said security position, they can proclaim, “maybe me” with links to their decade long social media presence vetting their incellyness. Where other users can now input their opinion on whether they feel said individual would behave appropriately to an agreed upon code of conduct vs the possibility of them going rogue. Shouldn’t even consider anyone who can’t sign anything with a verifiable key.
It’s a question that should get someone thinking.
Kneejerk answers of “all women trust me” are a red flag.
Someone who actually ponders the question and is honest about who doesn’t trust them and why would be enlightening.
“Sara doesn’t trust me because I yelled at her during our first date” is very different from “Helen doesn’t trust me because our joint business venture imploded.”
“All women trust me, to be a douchebag”
Certainly there must be a middle ground.
How about instead of, “all women trust me” we pick from, “I would definitely have sex with that man” vs “I would never have sex with that man”
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“I’ve never had any bad experiences with the women I know, they seem comfortable around me but how far does that comfort go? How far do they trust me? What are they trusting me with? Whay is this question actually asking?” - Is a more average train of thought through that question. You’re assuming that 1) everyone knows someone who doesn’t trust them, and 2) knows that they aren’t trusted and why
Exactly.
And losing your shit over the mere suggestion of being asked that question is so much more than a flag, it’s a red flashing neon banner with alarms going off.
Yet those with the most fragile of egos and most privilege (which they refuse to even acknowledge) to lose simply can’t help but tell on themselves.
It’s actually pretty fucking effective!