• riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        11 hours ago

        i think there is alot to be said about the influence of patriarchy on masculine words becomming applied to everyone. men being seen as the norm and all that…

        • Dharma Curious (he/him)@slrpnk.net
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          11 hours ago

          Whoah! That’s a personal question I don’t feel like would reflect accurately my life if someone knew. There’s more to me than my body count. I contain depths and multitudes outside of the number of people I have slept with!

          280ish. But there’s more to me than that!

      • SchmidtGenetics@lemmy.world
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        14 hours ago

        Ahah, you changed it plural which genders it. It’s dudes and dudettes in that case.

        Did you see that dude I slept with last night?

        Totally different now that it’s a singular.

        Yeah language sucks.

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            13 hours ago

            maybe it’s the article that makes it seem masc? A dude, vs “hey, dude!”

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            13 hours ago

            Well contextually you would know who the person was talking about…

            If you saw a woman and confused it with a man because of word, that’s on you mate. There’s another gender neutral and singular term.

      • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        15 hours ago

        In my area “dude” is really gender neutral in most cases.

        Regional dialects and all that.

        Funnily enough so is “man” in a lot of cases.

        For example: “Man I don’t know what’s going on anymore.” In this case “man” is less a reference to anyone in any specific way and more like an exasperation (like fuck, shit, hell, etc) and is a really common usage.