People today cannot go a moment without crying about how they’ve been ghosted by someone else. But they don’t really think about relevance when it comes to gaining friends and maintaining them.

People are so easy to let go of someone because they haven’t had a ‘hi’ from them in a couple days or a week. I think that’s too petty. Are you meaning to say that people are not allowed to tend to things they find more important? To other people they may find more important than you?

All I ever ask from my friends is to at least talk to me within a year, something anything. Doesn’t have to be on a constant basis, we’d run out of subjects and updates.

I always feel like people should evaluate friends based on relevancy. How much do they mean to you? What have they done recently that makes the friendship itself feel like it’s gotten an update? Is the mutual bond still there?

Things like that. Simply throwing a fit because someone hasn’t spoken to you in a day or even a few hours kind of suggests that maybe you’re an insecure friend.

  • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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    5 days ago

    I go about six months to a year between hearing from or reaching out to certain friends. We have busy lives and live far apart. I hadn’t seen some friends in years and finally took a road trip to two cities to see people in 2023. It’d been over a decade since I’d seen one of the friends.