My son will be 13 months on the 16th. This evening has been particularly rough. It started with my pom escaping the fence during dinner. So I had to interrupt my son eating and go collect my dog. Then he decided he didn’t want to finish eating or basically even start eating. I put him in the bath since that always helps. It helped until I took him out.

So I was trying to get him dressed for bed since he was just absolutely tired. Well while wrestling him to get a diaper on. He keeps alligator rolling. I just snapped and yelled at him. But he was so focused on his own screaming that he didn’t even flinch.

I feel like a failure. After that I finally succeeded in getting a diaper on him then. Tried to nurse him to sleep like we usually do. NOPE. continued to scream and fight sleep. After about 10 minutes, I gave up and just put him in the crib. He fought sleep for another 5 minutes then crashed.

Earlier I checked him for a fever or anything physical that needed medical attention. He was just exhausted 😞

  • curlyqute@lemm.eeOPEnglish
    1·
    21 hours ago

    We change him on the changing table. That’ll obviously have to end. He was completely naked. My parter is out of town for work.

    And the crib is a new thing. We had to do sleep training because he literally refused to sleep one night. We tried for over 2 hours to put him down. Then gave up. Tried the cry it out method put pediatrician recommend (this was round 3 of any sleep training). He stubbornly SAT up in his crib for another 2+ hours refusing to sleep. Nodding off and falling over. Finally slept sometime after 12:45am

    • Hello_there@fedia.io
      5·
      17 hours ago

      The sleep training method I used was:

      • get sleepy and relaxed holding in arms
      • put in crib. Use words Naptime or whatever they typically hear at sleeping time. Rub back a few times. 1 min max. Then walk away
      • cry a lil because you feel bad.
      • put a timer on for 5 mins.
      • at end of 5 mins, come in, pick up and comfort. Get their breathing to even out and get them relaxed again.
      • put back in crib and walk.
      • Cry a lil more
      • 10 min timer from then on. A lil longer if you think they’re on the brink of falling asleep.
      • do this cycle until it works. A couple of nightmare nights and then it should stick. Anytime you cave, you’re breaking the training and causing more stress.

      Now I’m (M) able to put in crib, sit on floor, and shh until they fall asleep on their own with minimal crying.

    • Jeena@piefed.jeena.netEnglish
      1·
      20 hours ago

      Around month 10 our had a time where he would wake up every hour, this was the worst time, this is when I also forced the wife to try sleep training which was equally awfull, but it gave results so he would start sleeping longer and sometimes even be able to sooth himself back to sleep.

      What I can say it gets better with time.

      Also it’s the worst combination that your partner is away so you get no time to wind down at all during a difficult period, I really feel for you.