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    We have an urge to be wanted, to be needed, to be relied upon. Is it a cultural lens through which we see this issue or do women not feel the same?

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      But we typically have that urge only from those we find attractive (unless it’s a child or pet).

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        If we’re still speaking on the topic of men, then you would be surprised to find out otherwise. Certainly attractiveness makes it more compelling, but even older male peers relying on you for help can have a positive effect on us. Benjamin Franklin once wrote about improving his relationship with a political opposition and rival by asking them, with humility, to lend him a recommended book. When we help our elders, it makes us feel proud and a sense of filial piety. People only abandon their lessers due to environmental stress or greed.