• TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee
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    6 days ago

    This thread is an example of why men aren’t dating.

    “I’ve had painful lived experiences and faced unbalanced and unfair expectations, so I’ve decided dating isn’t worth my time right now”

    “You’re an incel”

    It doesn’t really matter what you say, it’s the fact that you said it as a man that will garner disrespect from some regardless.

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      It’s like us men are immune to trauma and if we bring up any valid concerns or criticism, it’s either we’re incels or homosexual.

      Our society and the double standards we place on ourselves as men or women is absolutely ridiculous.

      It’s incel to think you believe you’re the shit and why isn’t any woman coming to you. That’s incel thought.

      Dealing with depression, lack of job opportunities, isolation among men as society pushes us to keep our emotions on the backburner, etc. aren’t incels, it’s whats happening with men right now. Men have little to no support group compared to women and for that, I am envious.

      As a dad:

      I get weird looks when I’m with my child, am told “doing daddy duty huh” when I’m more involved than his mother, am expected to be stoic, can’t sit at the bench to waych my child play as some other individual will think I’m a creep as I’m a single dad, can’t wear dope/unique patterns due to others perception of it being “flamboyant” while women will compliment other women for what they got on.

      Toxic masculinity is intertwined with incels and it’s absolutely rampant in society.

    • ameancow@lemmy.world
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      The common denominator in all of this is the fucking internet.

      We didn’t have the internet to give us opinions about men and women before. Most relationships were formed with existing social circles and friend groups. People hung out and had fun and talked to each other until they started getting frisky and then we had babies.

      Now when someone wants to go get it on, they start reading the internet stories and arguments and roleplay issues, and they get tense and worried and then have no idea what to do or say when they’re in the same room with a potential partner.

      We HAVE to kill off the reliance on the internet if we want people to start liking each other again, which I don’t know how to do since we’re only getting more and more locked-in to our isolated routines.