cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/30568522
I’ve heard several stories about couples that suddenly stop having sex, start snapping at each other for stupid bs, your girlfriend who was so sweet and supporting becomes her mother, a raging, yelling psychopath, looking for excuses to be passive aggressive, inviting her friends back home when all you want to do is rest after your workday, your boyfriend, so passionate about you is suddenly cold towards you and wants to be left alone. Before having a child you were inseparable, now it’s like you hate each other and rant about your loved one with your friends…
I couldn’t survive such a radical personality change.
Does this phase eventually runs its course?
How do you find the mental fortitude to ignore the stupid bs your partner does or says?
How would you describe love to your partner a year after having a baby?
Is there any way to know if you and your partner are going to make it and remain a couple after having a child?
Yeah, I think it’s kind of the same for me, I’ve noticed that I have some like aesthetic appreciation for the male body that I either didn’t have when I was younger or didn’t acknowledge because it was the 80s and that sort of thing got aggressively quashed by society (especially in high school; I knew of kids who had gotten beaten up in the bathroom for it, etc.) But yeah, same, I dunno if it’s just something that was always there or something that’s kind of come up since I slapped that asexual label on myself so now it’s safe to entertain the idea because nothing will ever come of it. Brains are weird, man.