I get that, if things are not changed on the Apple side, websites can’t have proper notification so you are forced to have an app but on android PWA (Progressive Web Apps - basically websites on steroids) are a real thing and you can just “install” the lemmy website of your instance and avoid any bloated app. Are you looking for an app with some feature missing from the website? Are you just unaware of the possibility of installing the website itself? I don’t want to sound rude (English isn’t my first language) but I don’t get what to me looks like an obsession to have a bloated app installed on your phone
The proxy is hosted on the lemmy instance, it allows the reddit apps to interface with lemmy, it won’t take up more space on the device than the app itself.
One of the last things i’m worried about on my phone is the amount of space I have, i’d rather have a fluid, native interface.