I agree with pooperbee that open communication is super important. I was under the impression my wife was bi when I told her I was considering transition, at which point she revealed she’d been identifying as straight for years because of her attraction to only me. We spent the next week in limbo, not sure if our marriage was about to end, but we worked through things together and we are now happier in our marriage by a fair margin. I do think it’s funny that for me, babies weren’t in the cards until I quite recently realized I wanted to be a mom, and now it’s all we are talking about lol