Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them.
The metal isn’t what’s kept us together for 35 years…
as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it’s important to wear a ring to signal to men that I’m not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but … it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)
and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that
The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.
ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It’s true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of “default place” that way
yay imperialism 🫠
Yeah, I’m not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch…) and now of course I’m old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway… go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn’t help. LOL!
My wife and I made our own wedding rings from wood. We don’t wear them since they are fairly fragile.
Yeah, my wedding ring is a really nice black-stained wood with a malachite band, but I noticed it was getting scratched from daily wear, so I wear a silicone workout ring day to day. I bust out the real one for special occasions.
I hate wearing anything on my hands, gloves, rings, watches, etc. Also, I worked with tools a lot. So, I didn’t wear mine most of the time, only during special occasions. My wife was the same.
Actually, my wife preferred I didn’t wear my ring, because I got hit on more when I had it on. She saw it happen.
Yup. All day, every day.
Same. Only take mine off if I’m washing my hands and need to dry under it.
Mine doesn’t even come off for that. You’d think it would get nasty under there not being dried properly, but it’s been about (two wives with a gap between - can’t be bothered working out the exact time) 35 years and zero problems.
My skin is an asshole and the ring didn’t help. After some days it started itching and peeling and I just wore it on special occasions afterwards.
We’re divorced now, but I kept it out in the open, because it reminds me of the good times we had together. And we had a lot (and we’re still friends).
Yes and yes. I dislike jewelry, but I never take my ring off.
I bought a bunch of silicone rings because I’m a cheap bitch who eloped and works in factories. At some point I will probably buy a fancier ring, but I’ve got basically no sense of style for jewelry. And no I wear it to work and generally when I’m out, but not really when I’m at home. I also have a piercing that symbolizes my relationship with my wife and I only remove that when medically necessary
Yes and I always wear it all the time except when I make pizza
except when I make pizza
Man, I thought I was up on the current slang, but this one is new to me!
Neither of us do. We stopped after the first year or so since neither of us like rings.
Same here. It was just annoying
I used to. But it gets in the way. I work on things that can have angry electrons. 12v 50A. 48V 100A and sometimes 500v to 5000v. I like my finger more than any pretentious or misguided thinking about a piece of metal meaning anything. I keep mine somewhere in clean part of a shelve at home I use it for when we go out together. I wouldn’t want someone there think I’m up for grabs or something.
I don’t like jewelry so my wife and I got matching tattoos on our ring fingers. It’s our first initials in Morse code with a heart between them.
Have one (two), never wear it.
I found out the hard way that I was allergic to something in my first one. It was tungsten carbide and I think that’s sometimes bound with cobalt or nickel which some people are allergic to. Luckily, I got it off before my finger swelled too much… reminder that super strong metals are not a good idea for rings. I was young, dumb, and thought “tungsten carbide = cool” without thinking all the way through it.
After that, I made a replacement but I’m a code monkey with very thin fingers and it was constantly annoying me by moving around so I took it off and never put it back on. If silicone rings had been readily available back then I might’ve switched to one of those and stuck with it since they don’t move.
The spouse wears their band all the time and has never expressed annoyance about me not wearing mine… it’s been about 25 years.
No. I occasionally have to lift heavy objects and if there’s one kind of injury I really want to prevent it’s degloving. Do not look it up if you’re squeamish.
The other day i was saying i had to go pick up my wife and the tea-shop attendant instantly laughed and asked, “Then where’s your wedding ring?”
So i had to think of a polite way to say that the state can fuck right off out of my relationships and take it’s bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it. That sounded something like, “oh ah we’re not actually … we didn’t need to… so we haven’t… so i don’t have… yeah.”
… Did I miss out on some state sponsored wedding ring!?
take it’s bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it
Righteous.
Yes because I can’t trust myself with(out) it. There was this one time I removed it to put hand cream and I popped the ring on a bottle of nail polish next to me. I immediately forgot what I did and spent a good couple of hours on the verge of tears because I thought I lost the ring. It’s very dear to me, it belonged to my husband’s grandma who got married in 1944 so I can’t exactly get a replacement for it.
Husband only removes it when he showers because he’s not a scatterbrain.
