• chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world
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      My parents did this all the time when I was growing up. They weren’t “talking shit,” but instead were saying things like, “he won’t stick with Tae Kwon Do” or “he won’t finish that model he wasted his allowance on.” Things like that. I gotta tell you, it fucked me up pretty bad. There were a lot of things that I gave up on because I figured “who cares?” I ended up becoming a massive introvert and learning to keep things to myself just so I wouldn’t possibly disappoint them. I’m better now, but it’s taken a long time of self evaluation and learning to find worth in things that I do just for myself.

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        1 year ago

        Yeah, my parents were like yours exactly. They were talking about my grade or my attitude to studying instead tho

        Especially my father discourages me to do something

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        Jeez that’s messed up, talk about a self-fulfilling prophesy.