I’ve realized that I’m very mentally weak and it’s impacting my success.
I suspect I have ADHD and whenever I get an urge to distract myself, I rarely manage to resist it.
I think what I am missing is the residtance to discomfort that eg. allows sports people to carry on going even when their muscles are telling them to stop. Or the thing that allows people to defy themselves and step into an ice-cold shower.
Unfortunately I am not a person who enjoys sports and a cold shower is only something that makes sense once a day. Can you think of any exercises that I can do here and now in my room, and practice routinely that will strengthen my willpower so that I can better resist my urges in the future?
Oh yes I’ve come across her channel before. This is unrelated but have you found any good ways to deal with the ‘wall of awful’ that she describes in one of her videos?
I highly recommend getting the book “The Mind Illuminated”. It’s a structured step by step guide to mindfulness, that explains the theory and reason for why you do it so well and without any mysticism, that it instantly made it click with me internally and it suddenly started making sense. It also gives clear goals for every step, and explains why you do it, and what troubles you’ll probably encounter.
In summary, its the perfect book for someone who has an aversion for mysticism and is sceptical of mindfulness, and also for someone who needs clearly defined steps and goals.