An oldie, but a goodie

  • TheBlue22@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    Like, I get how it’s funny, but I would hate to get this kind of shit from someone I respect. Would really mess me up, personally

      • TheBlue22@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        1 year ago

        I get what you mean, but there are ways to say you fucked up, without calling you expletives. Some days, you get angry and scream at someone, but it doesn’t really make it feel amazing for the party being screamed at.

        I didn’t mean it was mean from him to give him feedback or correct him, but the way he said it was a bit overblown.

      • mlunar@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        As already stated it’s less about the facts being communicated and more about the way they’re being communicated.

        I would posit that the mismatch in the style of communication lead to you needing more time to clue in. And in that way, the initial feedback might have been an inefficient way to relay the point.

        However it’s also entirely possible that trying to package it in a better way, the point of the feedback-giver would have gotten lost, leading you not to clue in at all.

        Communication is hard, especially tailoring it to the expected audience. That being said I don’t think being an asshole is ever ok, unless it directly saves lives or something. 😅

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      1 year ago

      That’s why you should never put people on a pedestal. There are a lot of people I admire, but I always try to imagine them being stupid assholes most of the time to balance things out in my head.

    • 0x4E4F@infosec.pub
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      1 year ago

      Not me, I’d just take a closer look at what I’ve done and see where my mistakes are.

      It’s not like we’re married or something, I don’t live with him. It’s just an email, get over it.

      • TheBlue22@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        1 year ago

        I don’t think having tough skin should be a prerequisite in IT.

        You can tell a person they made a mistake or are wrong without being a cunt about it.

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          1 year ago

          When the person doesn’t see anything wrong with what they did, yes I belive I have the right to be a cunt about it.

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      1 year ago

      I’d give as good as I got and we’d be fine. Not everyone is a spineless crybaby who melts down at the first hint of disapproval. Are you all little children?

      Edit: Stupid question, apparently. Good thing it was rhetorical.