• Exocrinous@lemm.eeOP
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    1 year ago

    The reason people are being combative and spewing misinformation while calling me an idiot is that I’m nonbinary. Remember when a woman would put forward a scientific opinion, and every man in the room would contradict her even if she’s right, because women aren’t supposed to do science? It’s the same for nonbinary people. My gender means people can’t take me seriously in a scientific discussion, no matter what right or wrong are. I have to be called an idiot for having an opinion in the first place. What I’m “supposed” to do is say “Thank you for educating me, you smart boys” so they can feel superior. If I pushback, then it’s okay to call me high or stupid for daring to disagree with a man.

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      You never mentioned you were nonbinary. Isn’t it possible that people were being contrarian without being transphobic?

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        People can tell on a subconscious level. It’s all in the mannerisms and cultural subtleties. “You didn’t notice, but your brain did”

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            There you go again, dismissing my opinion because a nonbinary person said it. I’m nonbinary and I have opinions, so they must be wrong. You don’t even bother to invent a reason to disagree, you just dismiss me out of hand. I’m not even worth your time to invent an excuse to take me unseriously.

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              No, I actually thought you were joking. I think people are pretty ordinary and can’t telepathically tell that stuff in text. I bet you can’t deduce my gender, orientation, race, hair color, and name. I assume this because I didn’t tell you any of these things.

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                Poe’s law, so hard right now. I actually assume everyone on Lemmy is a man until they say otherwise, because Lemmy is tech people and tech is sadly like that.

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            I don’t talk like a man, and I don’t talk like a woman. People are only used to hearing men and women talk. That’s the scope of their experience talking to human beings. Which means that I don’t sound human. I sound like some kind of bizarre alien intelligence. It’s scary for these people.

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              Most people on lemmy, reddit, etc just assume you’re a man until you say otherwise. It constantly happens to me, a woman.

              I hate to break it to you, but you sound just like every gendered person on the planet. No difference in the way you speak on here from men or women.

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                You’re also a fool, because you think that you can perceive all subconscious influences on your mind. That’s the opposite of what subconscious means.

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                  Following your train of tought maybe you are dismissing her opinion because you inconsciously percieve that she’s a woman

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              You’re making an assertion that people can identify specific personal details over text, but somehow we still need to use a /S to identify sarcasm because text doesn’t convey tone or body language. That requires some pretty heavy backup.

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      Yes, you are being ridiculed unfairly. No, I don’t think it’s because you are neurodivergent or non-male. As far as I can tell, there is 0 evidence to suggest that people are targeting you for your identity. They’re literally just assholes.