

To what extent are those behaviors something inherent to the neurological condition versus something exacerbated by the conditions that society places on those people?
There people who argue that transgenderism shouldn’t be tolerated because there’s a strong correlation between being transgender and being depressed to the point of suicide. They believe that “humoring” the “sickness” just leads to more suicide. But the reality is that transgender people aren’t generally depressed when they’re part of a supportive community rather than being alienated.
I’m not an expert in neurology, and I acknowledge this is a large degree of speculation on my part, but maybe these outcomes can be different if we collectively approach the matter with more understanding and empathy. If the tantrums truly can’t be helped, then create space for the tantrums to happen in a way that minimizes disruption to others and doesn’t elicit judgment.
As a manager I’ve been on the receiving end of a very aggressive tantrum directed at me from someone who reports to me that I suspect may be on the spectrum. He didn’t feel like I was paying enough attention to his work, and rather than bringing it up to me in a respectful and constructive way, he had an outburst one day where he scolded me in a very demeaning way, essentially accusing me of being negligent as his manager. I suspect a lot of people in my position would have escalated that to HR right away, but instead I took the time to listen to his grievances and acknowledge that I could have done some things better as his manager but also that he is accountable for communicating his needs to me in a timely and respectful manner. He acknowledged that he could’ve handled the situation better and we came up with a system that makes it easier to get what he needs from me.
In the end no one’s feelings needed to get hurt, no one’s career needed to be damaged, and no one needed to deal with HR, because I was willing to understand the outburst for what it is and not take it too personally.
This is exactly my point though: What if people with autism weren’t disadvantaged in society? Then the idea of “curing” it would be meaningless.
I understand that you’re frustrated by the challenges you’ve dealt with in your life, and I acknowledge that I’m speaking from a place of privilege as someone that doesn’t have any disability. But personally I’d rather see a world where people don’t feel like they’re disadvantaged for not matching the status quo than a world where everyone is equal just because everyone is the same.