Abstinence makes the church grow fondlers.

I’ve known that from the Tool song Third Eye. Good to know the original sauce. Reference: https://on.soundcloud.com/MLXsj

Don’t comply with your daughter’s wishes every time, and especially times when your wife is already helping your daughter. You also want to avoid setting a precedent that your daughter always gets her way. Lots of reaffirming/reassuring statements to your wife will probably help. Best of luck!