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Cake day: July 7th, 2023

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  • This is totally relatable. I see gender as a whole as pretty nebulous. For myself, it is anything but easy to understand, and terrifyingly difficult to explain to others. What I hear from you sounds gender-fluid, it may or may not be a label that resonates with you.

    It can also be beneficial to see your gender expression as independent from your gender identity. You might still be a woman, but express masc if that’s just the vibe for that day. There shouldn’t be rules. Trans people have suffered enough from gender expectations and pressure. Becoming trans doesn’t remove them, it only shifts them to a new goalpost.

    Personally I love titling myself as Non-binary. It’s an umbrella term, independently it isn’t very descriptive. I don’t resonate with gender-fluid, demi-girl, bigender, etc… I sort of see myself as Non-binary as a n act of protest against gender. It’s a social construct as far as I’m concerned, and putting more thought into it feels like a disservice to myself. I spent enough years searching desperately for a label that hasn’t been created yet. It is exhausting, It is constrictive, I don’t want to do that to myself. I wanna do whatever it is I want. My body, my choice, my life, and it damn better be my right too.

    Hopefully you figure it out. I technically never did, but what I have found is a path to make myself a lot happier. I hope you can find the same at the very least. Sending you virtual hugs 🤗