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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • The thing about morality is that it is subjective (granted there is some discourse on that whole topic).

    Whether it is immoral - there are societal groups that would consider it immoral. There are also ones who wouldn’t find anything wrong with it.

    IMO, what ultimately matters is your own morality, and past that, how those you care about would view it (their morality).

    Harmful is a whole other topic with a lot of facets though. That I can’t help with.



  • It really depends on the job. My 9-5 is hybrid, so 3 days in a week minimum, others can be remote. We have core hours, 10-4, where I should be available. So I can WFH and have something for 4PM, get back, and wrap up my last hour. But my boss is also very understanding, and if I need to be unavailable within core hours, he won’t force me to take PTO if I make up those hours.









  • I hate Comcast/Xfinity with such a passion I tell myself if I had the same hatred for a person I’d be in jail for murder.

    Not only did they impose their “trial data caps” in my area and charge me out the ass for going over 2TB a month, I acceded once to being upsold and was told it was completely reversible within a month. After realizing the sales shithead lied to me about the features, I called to revert. Guess what? They couldn’t. It wasn’t something they could do. Fortunately I recorded all my calls, but even with that it took me more than 30 hours of phone and chat time to get it fixed, and the agent who finally helped me had to setup a recurring account credit to fix it. Absolutely horrid. She basically clarified, without saying it outright, that the sales shithead lied to my face because they’re practically encouraged to.

    Long story short my home purchase decision was influenced greatly by those shitheads not being in the area, and just seeing an ad makes me want to vandalize it. It’s the only thing I hate with this much passion.




  • While there is some credence to “you can’t truly learn to live another until you learn to love yourself”, I think we king as you approach a relationship with the right mindset you don’t have to love yourself / be happy. Right mindset being the operative word.

    Anecdotal, but back when my depression was even worse I approached them as a “if I can’t be happy I want to dump 110% of myself into the relationship to make my partner happy”. It doesn’t take alot to understand why that’s such a bad approach. As long as you find someone who you can trust with your weaknesses and be trusted with theirs, maintain a open line of communication, and generally be comfortable around I don’t see why not.



  • This reads like and hopefully is just rage bait.

    The language used into the post itself has so many red flags. You “forbid” her, you had to get to get on the ground. And after having a PTSD episode over sexual assault, when you tried to touch her she yelled, which is reasonable for a victim of sexual assault, and you retaliated instead of giving space.

    And if this is what you’re willing to recount, I can only imagine what wasn’t said may be even worse.

    If this was genuinely just a very misguided attempt at helping overcome trauma, you should probably see a counselor and perhaps arrange a group session with whoever she has been seeing, if she’s amicable to it.