Are you looking for scene support (double, triple, etc click events) or just being able to remotely control the light?
Worth noting several brands have cheaper “add-on” switches to use in 3-way scenarios. You would only need one smart switch and add-ons for the remaining switches.
I personally have a bunch of Enbrighten dimmers/switches and add-ons that work like dumb switches when disconnected from the hub. I too was concerned with the WAF (wife approval factor).
The switches reset into a neutral position, so you can’t tell if they’re on or off except for the LED.
The dimmers don’t make a noticeable sound but the switches make an slight audible click when turning on or off.
Worth noting mine are a few years old and they may have changed some things.