im 157cm (5′2) 26yo male i have been in a realationship for 3years and i did had success somewhat with girls. tho sometime I feel like i need to work very hard, harder than my tall friends. if im not on my top shape and lean i feel like im not enough, and given less chances with girls. im pretty muscular, and have an ok face, i also pretty nice to talk to and tbh i never had a first date which the girl didnt want to go to a second date with me. but the height a lot of times made some girls not even consider me, and tbh 157 cm is like shorter than 99% of guys. im thinking about doing it to get to 5′6 tho i also dont wanna be the guy who is known for doing limb lengthning surgery cause its like an insecure thing. im pretty lost tbh. need some outsiders perspective ty
If women are seriously flat out just not considering you because of your height then they aren’t women you want to be with. I’m not necessarily convinced that’s the reason, but let’s assume it is. Would going through such a surgery make you be okay with potentially being with someone so shallow? And if you did, what would their reaction be once they found out you have gone through the surgery?
I can understand wanting to improve yourself to find a partner. Getting fit. Dressing better. Advancing your career. Being fun to be around. All of these are good things to do. But you can’t control your height, and people rejecting you over it (and nothing else) are very shallow.
Like, just imagine you go through it. You find a woman you like. Then she says something like “I hate short men so much.” How would you react? Unless you’re ready to adopt that world view as well it’s not going to end pretty. Even if you took some stance like “short men are the worst, that’s why I stopped being one,” there’s still a chance she’s gonna laugh and view you as short.
If your height is genuinely negatively affecting your life and doctors think it’s worth pursuing, than go for it. I’m not some sort of biological purist. I’m just saying it sounds like the reasons you’re interested in it are short sighted (pun very unintended).
im agreeing with you in 95%. the 5%: I feel like my height is not in the range where im kinda short but its normal and if the woman rejecting me just on this she is shallow. 157cm is only like 7cm from being a legal dwarf… its not only short… its like… weird. i would have agree with you if i was like 165-170 and cry about it. but 157… its like shorter than most womens and not only short but extra short. im not self pity myself just to be clear im in a country where there is mandatory service in the military so rn im studying a fancy stem degree and regarding of taking care of my body im in the gym since 16yo (140kg bench and +70kgs weighted pullup 1rms thanks to my 164cm wingspan 🤣 ). but sometimes i feel i would do so much better if i would get like 10 more cm.