JackbyDev

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Professional developer and amateur gardener located near Atlanta, GA in the USA.

I’m using a new phone keyboard, please forgive typos.

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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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    4 hours ago

    It’s very annoying to have managers say their hands are tied when they very well could go to bat for you with their superiors. I was lucky to have one manager really push for me in the past like that. It’s rare.









  • The worse things get in my life the more I feel like this. I believe it’s a consequence of being raised Christian. (Though I am an atheist now.) When I was younger I believed God never gives you more than you can handle. So when things got bad it felt like God was breaking that promise. Now that I’m older it feels like “bad writing.” Like, really? This many bad things in such a short time period? It’s a little on the nose, isn’t it? It’s why I can’t rewatch I saw the TV Glow until I know I am in a very stable mental place.

    Major spoilers

    The main characters enjoyed a TV show that got cancelled on a cliff hanger. It is revealed that the characters are actually characters from that show which is reality and the false reality is the world they’re stuck in. To get back to the true world they have to bury themselves alive.

    I saw this movie right in the heels of Trump’s inauguration when I had a lot of other stress going on. Naturally, a movie with 4th wall breaking lines like “Do you ever feel like your life is a TV show?” when I did feel like my life was scripted and the way for them to get out was suicide was pretty terrifying.

    The irony being that I have been going through a bit of a gender journey for a while and knew the movie had themes to do with that, but none of that really hot anywhere close to home as the rest mentioned above. I’m just glad I planned to see it surrounded by friends.

    The idea that there’s an escape hatch on reality is so alluring. The idea that all the bad things in your life are the fault of one person, even if they’re a metaphysical entity, is so appealing. The sad reality is that it’s all random and sometimes we just get unlucky streaks.




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    I fought for getting a 4/5 rating at an old job and gave lots of examples. Their argument was that I didn’t deserve it because those were just expected. I pointed out my work compared to others in my team and was told that it compares across the company, not the team. I kept causing a fuss about it because I was so angry about it and finally my manager said something about the bonuses has already been communicated and people would be angry to get less. I was confused because I didn’t want more money, I was just offended they said I was performing on average when I was going above and beyond every day. It was also really embarrassing to me. If they’d just said the rating doesn’t affect anything except your bonus I wouldn’t have even cared.

    The whole thing is all BS.




  • I’ve trained myself not to laugh or take pleasure from other people’s pain or discomfort. See it as an indication of NPC.

    But say shit like

    I deemed him too small to bother with. He had no where to retreat to. I’m leering over him, he’s sitting. I could use overhead metal railing to brace against while kicking his head in. He was in a disadvantaged defensive position. I choose to pick my battles. To my knowledge to this day he doesn’t have to eat thru a straw.

    Definitely feels like you’re getting pleasure from the idea of that person’s pain and discomfort.



























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