My (29M) online friend (30’s F) has been flirting with me. She says her only intention is to boot my ego, but the way she is talking to be seems to be more than that. She will constantly message me and ask me to do things with her in game all the time. She also seems to want to know more about me, but any time I try and ask about her, she kind of brushes it off or changes the subject. She spent an entire day telling me that she had a crush on me (for a year??) and everything that she liked about me (the exact list will make this post too long). I really appreciate what she says, but I feel like I am on an emotional rollercoaster trying to figure out what exactly she wants. I have tried asking her, but it’s usually either ignored or the subject is changed. I do not want to cut ties, because she is an integral part of the group of friends I play with and I don’t want things to be awkward, but I really don’t know how to move forward with this situation. Any advice, even if it’s brutally honest, is welcome.
Yeh, straight up ask her about it.
You appreciate her boosting your ego, but it is coming across as flirting.
Is she flirting?
If she says yes, ask her where she thinks it’s going, what you should do next.
Like, “oh, cool. I’m into that. So … What now?”. Then have fun, and see where it goes
If she says no, then say it will take some time to re-adjust to her being just a friend, and ask her to set boundaries if things feel like they go too far.
Like “oh ok, I wasn’t sure. It’s kinda lead me down that path, but I like playing games with you. So, if I’m ever inappropriate, call me out. But I’ll try to keep everything platonic”.
Then… Just be normal. Don’t be confused. If you overstep then she will say.
Have fun, and enjoy a new friend.
It definitely seems like flirting to me. She tells me stuff I would only expect to hear from a romantic partner. I will try and talk to her soon, definitely don’t want to get led on
Yeh, exactly.
And worst case, it gives you an opportunity to set your own boundaries and expectations