Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful that their independence was born from neglect rather than choice
geediting.com
The skills that make you the person everyone relies on might be the same ones that quietly remind you nobody showed up when you needed them to.

Does anyone else see themselves in this article?

  • I Cast FistEnglish
    6·
    19 days ago

    Even worse is when adults actively deny teaching you something basic like washing clothes or cooking food, always saying “Leave it to me”. I am very resentful of that

    • shyguyblue@lemmy.worldEnglish
      4·
      19 days ago

      Ugh, I felt this. My sperm donor would “take over” anytime I asked for help, which led me to hating asking for help as an adult

      • A_Random_Idiot@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        19 days ago

        And when you do get help, it of course comes with strings attached and you’ve got to spend the next 6 months dancing blind in a field of landmines waiting for the help you received to be thrown back your face and detonated.