• BruceTwarzen
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      1210 months ago

      It’s fucking weird being a guy on tinder these days. Uhm yes, i’m a scorpio and therefore an empath, my character type is emjp, i need to vacuum twice a week because of my OCD 🤪 and i can’t sit still because of my ADHD.
      Bitch, what even are you?

    • Maeve
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      410 months ago

      It’s because mental illness is so normalized, anything approaching normal and healthy is pathologized.

      • BruceTwarzen
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        3910 months ago

        I’d trade my ADHD for being normal every day of the week. It’s even worse when people tell you about how they have ADHD because they are just annoying. And i sit there thinking: yeah i know what you mean, sometimes i don’t take my ADHD meds, because i have ADHD, and then i don’t answer text messages or pay bills for a few month, lol so random and fun.

        • Maeve
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          1310 months ago

          Recognizing your illness and doing what you need to do, especially self-care, is healthy and admirable. Wishing you all the best.

          • @[email protected]
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            2110 months ago

            Hearing people dismiss your condition is pretty fucking frustrating. Idk about worse but it is highly irritating.

            • @[email protected]
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              410 months ago

              Sure, acknowledged. But HAVING the condition in the first place has to be a greater issue, to me obviously.

              • @[email protected]
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                210 months ago

                And I totally agree with that. If I had to pick only one to fix it would be the condition, no contest.

          • @[email protected]
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            710 months ago

            No, they’re just saying it’s really annoying when people attribute an ordinary behavior to a mental disorder that you really struggle with.

              • @[email protected]
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                610 months ago

                He’s not saying hearing stuff like that is worse than having adhd, he’s saying that he feels even worse than normal when hearing that. Yes it’s phrased ambiguously, but you’re seemingly interpreting it as wrong as you can so you can feel superior

                • @[email protected]
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                  10 months ago

                  Why are you assuming my motives? You have zero evidence based on the words.

                  I questioned the specific words they used. That’s all. Semantics matter.

                  Having a condition is always worse than hearing people chirp.

              • @[email protected]
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                10 months ago

                Yeah I think they just meant the turn of phrase to be: “worse still” or “and on top of that”.

                PS:

                I’m still not making sense probably.

                I think they meant it like

                Disorder is bad but the combination of disorder PLUS people chirping is even worse.

                E.g., it’s bad enough I smashed my foot dropping a brick on it but on top of that I stubbed my toe, too.

                Smashing my food is bad but even worse is [also] subbing my toe [on top of the already smashed foot]

        • Maeve
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          410 months ago

          I do agree. Are my words somehow offensive or dismissive?

          • @[email protected]
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            910 months ago

            Thanks for asking. Not offensive to me personally just felt like it didn’t quite capture what what’s going on in my view.

            • Maeve
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              310 months ago

              Idk, when I was growing up, add/adhd, dyslexia, asd were unidentified, so I’m trying to learn because i feel I’ve two of the three conditions. I muddle through as best I can.

              • @[email protected]
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                410 months ago

                Same. Autism was only for the most extreme cases as far as I knew and ADHD wasn’t diagnosed often. I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 40.

                  • @[email protected]
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                    210 months ago

                    Absolutely. Between therapy and meds it has definitely helped me in pretty much every area of my life. It’s still challenging but less so.