Stories like this make me realize my decision to file for divorce at 14 years of marriage was the right choice. I’m happy someone has a wonderful and happy marriage, I really wished mine was like this. Maybe someday.
When I was younger, I worked with a guy named Gene. I’d hear him on the phone with his wife, so happy, so loving and I asked him about her and he said, he’d been in a bad marriage, gotten divorced, and was in a good marriage with a great woman and every single day he realized what he had now and was grateful for it.
Also at the same job a woman named Delena, she had come out of an abusive marriage and had a great boyfriend, she told me sex was better for women when they are older, and she was really happy too.
I think about them both now I am in my first marriage but second long term relationship (last one my ex got unemployed, got radicalized on the Internet and eventually got physically abusive, it started good, 15 good years 5 bad ones). I am happy every day now like Gene and Delena were. I wish this for you and also want to tell you old people make better decisions with relationships, you have a better chance now.
BTW, Delena was also right about sex. It’s better when older.
Considering a 50% divorce rate and an unknown % of people remaining because they feel stuck, (i’d guestimate another 25% at least) the modern, societal imposition of a happy lifelong partnership feels like a manufactured ideal to prop up the marriage industry.
“What you call love was invented by guys like me to sell nylons” was not far off the mark for a tv show.
Divorce rate spiked in the US when no-fault divorce was finally introduced, and that is when that idea of “50% of marriages end in divorce” popped up. According to these stats it’s been roughly a third for the past 20 years. So about 66% of marriages go the distance in the US.
Stories like this make me realize my decision to file for divorce at 14 years of marriage was the right choice. I’m happy someone has a wonderful and happy marriage, I really wished mine was like this. Maybe someday.
Hoping you get your wish
Things like this make me think I’m on the aro spectrum lol
Same. Like this is really how people feel, huh?
My wife is the best part of most of my days
When I was younger, I worked with a guy named Gene. I’d hear him on the phone with his wife, so happy, so loving and I asked him about her and he said, he’d been in a bad marriage, gotten divorced, and was in a good marriage with a great woman and every single day he realized what he had now and was grateful for it.
Also at the same job a woman named Delena, she had come out of an abusive marriage and had a great boyfriend, she told me sex was better for women when they are older, and she was really happy too.
I think about them both now I am in my first marriage but second long term relationship (last one my ex got unemployed, got radicalized on the Internet and eventually got physically abusive, it started good, 15 good years 5 bad ones). I am happy every day now like Gene and Delena were. I wish this for you and also want to tell you old people make better decisions with relationships, you have a better chance now.
BTW, Delena was also right about sex. It’s better when older.
I’m incredibly happy for you, but I’m also so sorry you saw a person change so horribly like that
Considering a 50% divorce rate and an unknown % of people remaining because they feel stuck, (i’d guestimate another 25% at least) the modern, societal imposition of a happy lifelong partnership feels like a manufactured ideal to prop up the marriage industry.
“What you call love was invented by guys like me to sell nylons” was not far off the mark for a tv show.
Divorce rate spiked in the US when no-fault divorce was finally introduced, and that is when that idea of “50% of marriages end in divorce” popped up. According to these stats it’s been roughly a third for the past 20 years. So about 66% of marriages go the distance in the US.
Could you share some more details? It is always good to get other perspectives, and learn from the choices of others
Wishing you a cup that runs over.