The dark Amit is back to play

  • Uterusofsteel@lemmy.ca
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    She looks so thin and hourglass here. I was having a low self esteem day and this sent me down a spiral. I know I shouldn’t let it but it’s hard not to. I hate to admit I’m on ozempic (AND IT ISN’T WORKING THE WAY I WANT IT TO 😫) but I also eat very mindfully and I work out 3x-4x a week. I have a physically demanding job where I lift and I’m on my feet all day. I’ve not seen a change in my body in 6 months. I’m also 38 and have a mom pooch. I’m not horribly overweight. Size 8 at 5’1 but my body isn’t what it used to be.

    I am recovering from disordered eating, and while I know it’s editing, it’s still so hard and damaging to see. Especially from someone who has built a platform on body positivity. All she does is make me see the “flaws” in me that I didn’t even know were a thing. Dark armpit. Belly button. Side Belly when laying down.

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      She has talked about how she doesn’t have a waist. She never has. Editing to add now that I have time: please dont let her BS get in your head. She’s full of it and knows damn well she has no waist. Watch this clip https://i.imgur.com/zKd8ANr.mp4

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      I’m so sorry she’s made you feel this way. Please don’t be ashamed you’re on ozempic and it sounds like you’re doing all the right things with diet and exercise. I bet there is a difference but you just can’t see it yourself yet. A history of disordered eating can make us see our bodies differently than they actually look. Sarah does highlight so many things I’ve never thought about either and it makes me angry because I know it changes the way some people see themselves. She isn’t helping anyone.

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        Thank you for the words! That’s a part of why I love this community so much. I’m in therapy for body issues and I’ve come a long way. I know in the long term, I will be ok. I’m healthy and in decent shape. I’m strong AF too lol I’m learning to be at peace with my body and live in true neutrality. That’s my goal, to just love what my body can do and how far it’s going to take me. That’s why she’s so harmful. She sets back women like me everyday.

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      Don’t ever let her make you feel that way 💜 I use to let it bother me ALOT. I just think social media is sooooo toxic for women. I recently was at Costco shopping with my hubby and I saw a girl I knew from high school. Mind you I hadn’t seen her in years!! I was SHOCKED!!! the pictures she posts online vs IRL. She was double the size if not more than what she put online. After that day I told myself I would not let social media make me feel upset about my own body and wishing I looked more like “them”. Learn to love yourself regardless of your mom pooch or not. You brought beautiful babies into this world and I’m sure you are an amazing mother

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        Thank you so much! I’m really working on it. I’m lucky to have my kids and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I don’t even think I ever cared about my mom pooch until I started seeing it be a thing online. I just assumed it was what happened. I wasn’t ashamed until I was told to be. The body “positivity” movement can be so damaging if not handled with care. That’s my biggest gripe.

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          You know what else you may have the mom pouch but can Sarah say she is a good person? Does she really have a kind heart? No. I’m sure you could answer yes and that’s far more honourable than anything Sarah could ever say/do. But it definitely is hard being a woman. I myself don’t have children and I’m a thicker gal and some days it eats me alive. Hang in there 💜

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            Thank you thank you. 😊 I have a full and fulfilling life with my kids. Traveling and living in a big city with my teens and husband. It’s a lot of unpacking past trauma but I’m working on it. I love and hate being a woman. I’m sure I’m not the only one lol

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          You probably didn’t care. I didn’t care about my Mom pooch until Sarah made me care. The way she snaps hers on and off is the worst kind of mind fuck. She’s horrible. Sarah craves a body and edits her body that isn’t something many of us who are Mom’s can’t achieve unless we have surgery. Only one of my friends post birth kept a leaner waist (visible abs). This friend competes in fitness shows. I felt for Janette when she posted about her body honestly, saying she’d rather have kids than abs. Sarah would probably swap her kids for a 20 year old model body. Sarah’s pathetic.

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      I’m on ozempic. Because you are working out the scale won’t change as fast. That’s a good thing. Around month 7-8 I started to see the hard work pay off. Hang in there.

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      my ex-girlfriend had something similar, it completely stopped when she started jujitsu, she switched to wanting muscles to being skinny/having a hourglass body lol, and was infinitely happier, she was also happy with her achievements in jujitsu rather than her body, and i guess that’s a lot healthier, i don’t know if that can be helpful for you, i’m a man, having body issues isn’t something that i can relate, but i firmly belive that sports/martial arts, something for you to achieve/have a healthy competitiveness against skill rather than genetics can help a ton in that

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      I relate to all of this! I am also on GLP-1s and am a very slow responder. It’s been really difficult to see her drop sizes overnight while I’m frustrated with my own attempts to lose weight. Rationally, I know it’s not real, but the brain doesn’t always register that right away.

      • Uterusofsteel@lemmy.ca
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        Yeah, I always see people losing 15-20 lbs in about 2 months, and I’ve lost about 5 in 4 months 🙃. I agree that rationally I know better, but it’s such a weird thing the brain does to not let you see it.