I personally don’t think it matters much at all, except in channels that specifically identify that way. However, I am male, hetero, cis, so its possible I’m just clueless.
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How would people even know other peoples gender?
There are people who share their pronouns/gender, but they are pretty rare
Beneath each woman is a man, and beneath him is a teenage boy, and beneath him is a bot. After that, it’s bots all the way down.
Not at all! What matters is the person and what they have to say. If it’s good content I’ll upvote and chime in! 😃
Why not make a new account with a femme sounding username and see? Don’t pretend you need help with a bra or anything, just interact with lemmy while “labeled” a woman.
I have a more masculine username and a more feminine username (both seem like spins on given names, think UrArthUr and Bekky), and there is a difference in how I’m perceived, or at least how people respond to me. It’s not huge, and I’m afab irl, so I’m also not surprised- I don’t think I’ve ever been somewhere where people can freely interact and it had no effect (or at least not since I grew tits).
Do people look at the usernames before replying to a message or post?
I may do it if the username is spelled with emojis (color is really noticable when everything around it is plain text) or has a stupid take.
I’m pretty sure everyone here is a cis man or trans woman, and I think the communities reflect that (noncredible defence = military memes, politics, computer nerd stuff, greentexts, anime nerd stuff), and tbh I can’t imagine any of the cis women in my life being interested in anything on lemmy
Depends on context, as always. A user sharing a story on social interaction, gender may be quite important to how they experienced it and how others perceive it. I.e., a post the other day asking about worst dates and the average worst date for men was a woman on coke or a no show. The average worst date for women was about getting sexually assaulted or raped.
Men are victims of those things too and can face different repercussions when they try to pursue help. Understanding their experiences within the context of them being men is also important.
Stripping gender from these stories only obfuscates some of the problems.
It doesn’t. What they say is what matters. Not whose saying it. Gender is irrelevant unless I’m going to date them or we’re about to lift heavy things.
Why does gender matter when lifting things?
Lifting heavy things.
Because on average, men are stronger.
on lemmy world? Not terribly much. On blahaj zone? Probably a bit more.
Eh, unless you’re discussing something gender specific it generally doesn’t come up. I find it’s honestly kinda rare to refer to users you’re not addressing so pronouns never really come up
Doesn’t matter at all. A person is a person.
I know you’re probably a kind person, but imo, this kind of reductionistism is incompatible with being pro-trans-rights.
In what way am I reducing them?
Is it? Then what is the gender of the person you’re replying? Surely if it was important you would need to know it before replying. The fact that you can reply someone without knowing their gender is proof that it doesn’t matter here.
If gender didn’t mattered IRL, trans people would be seen in the same light of someone who likes wearing black, or is unhappy with the way their nose looks to the point of doing a surgery about it. Trans people suffer because society puts a lot of importance in gender, therefore wanting to dress clothes from a different gender, or having a body that looks a different gender are “radical” ideas that offend simple-minded people.
and some of us are barely people
I’m a raccoon
I feel like a ‘raccoon’ that self-identifies as a ‘ramblingpanda’ on lemmy should be given…a warm welcome!
The trash is in the kitchen, the bamboo is out back, the bourbon is in the den, and the game starts in 5.
That’s a party of my taste 💖
Everyone is a complete person. Don’t belittle yourself like that.
I’m a barley person. I love beer.
I do think we all try to keep that spirit around here.
No spirits! Only people.
Lemmy is definitely a more male space than I think even reddit was, and that does affect the tone of certain conversations. It really is a whiplash coming here from Mastodon sometimes and seeing a very different vibe.
Even the women are men here /s
I can’t tell if you’re trying to make a joke, are being openly transphobic, or what.
The /s at the end is used to indicate sarcasm. With that information, I would rate it joke/10
I’ll disagree with most of this thread and say it somewhat does, because your views and biases are heavily influenced by your gender. So if genders are all the same, you’re just going to have a circlejerk. Is there something we should do about it? No, but I feel recognizing that it plays a big factor in a community is important.
It matters when looking at NSFW channels.
Not for me 😈
Identity in general doesn’t matter much on forums (as opposed to microblogs, like Twitter or Mastodon). Forums are focused on topics rather than people, and what is said is generally more important than who says it.
Tell that to all the super users.
What is a superuser in Lemmy? What can it do that’s so special? I don’t think I’ve ever encountered one.
And that’s why I’m here. People centric media stresses me.
I’m not quite grasping the context you’re asking the question, but I will say gender matters on Lemmy in the sense that I want full representation from all genders (and non-gender folk). The value of conversation here is derived from the many viewpoints that each of us bring. Without full representation, we’ll be missing valuable inside and perspective if a specific gender (or non-gender) is missing.
I’m primarily interested in the opinions of people who are not at least one of male/hetero/cis; it’s too easy for the privikeged group to delude themselves about how good they are behaving.
Transfem here, generally unless the topic being discussed is gender specific users genders aren’t relevant. Though, Lemmy has a pretty bad track record with gender relations imo, the whole women choosing the bear thing was such a shit show. The men’s lib community is good though, I’ve interacted with a couple posts there that popped up on my feed while scrolling and it actually consists of users who are empathetic and understanding and not anti-women like the reddit one turned into. It’s interesting, Lemmy has many many more male users than female, and it goes a bit further, with the ratio of transmascs to transfems being reversed. I just think it’s interesting that it’s an amab/afab split rather than a gender split. As someone in the thread trans-hatingly put it, “even the women are men here.”
Matters so much more than most people admit.
